dkim1985

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Feel free to read for your entertainment. There's just a lot going through my mind and I need to get it down somehow.

Brian

weird.
better search your soul.
Maybe there is something you aren't telling us.

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feito

Why ecxactly is this bothering u? Unless she is under 18 they're both adults and its their decision to make. Would u have prefered if they told u they were gonna do it just for fun? Like he^ said, either youre not tellin us something else or i just dont see a reason to be pissed. I could understand being just uncomfortable.

SoCalDrifter

as long as he didnt fuck ur cousin over and give her AIDS or break her heart i think everythings going to be ok bro

Matej

This is not the 19th century where prior to the mandatory annual deed one must compose a declaration for preparation to fornicate to be hastened to all whom it may concern.

Blurryeyes

It sounds like you are more pissed off about the fact that she got boned in the first place. Do you get a funny feeling in your crotch when you see her?

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XxHybridx

seems like your mad because she got laid, and not because it was your best friend? I don't understand. Did you want your little cousin(like your little sister) to be a virgin forever? That's life yo.

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dkim1985

The way they both handled the situation is what bothers me most.
I understand that whatever is going on between them is their business.
But considering my relationship with both of them, I expected a certain level of respect and courtesy.

He's been like a brother to me and I respect him more than my own real brother.
When there ever was a girl that was interested in him or him in her..I would back off. Even if I was interested in that girl, I wouldn't do anything without talking to him about it first. If it came to anyone in his family, i wouldn't even consider it.

As for my cousin... you guys need to get off that incest sh*t. that's just getting weird. loll
I just expected better from her..not that she chose him, but that she should of taken into consideration of my relationship with him and it was in my house. If she had talked to me about it first, I probably wouldn't have minded as much.

From their action, I feel like it just makes it clear to me the level of respect they have toward me isn't the same.
If they end up together, that's fine. I don't really care. What happened, happened and there's nothing I can do to change that.
Again, it's just the way they handled the situation.

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dkim1985

Maybe that wasn't as clear as I meant it.
If it was some other guy..I wouldn't do anything.
If it was any of my other friends..then I would. Because they all know who she is and how much she means to me.

She's already had sex with guys. That's not an issue here.

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PeaceOnesxWai

I think you have a authoritative sense over your cousin and the feeling, that even though its your best friend, you would want him to respect you as you were the guardian and your permission for him to see your cousin.

That or you know your friends dirty habits and know they wouldnt work out for your cousin which will end in a bad break up.


Never underestimate the power of denial.

fastandlow

Lay down the rules before hand
1. No having sex with anothers family members in the house
2. Always have the girl bring a friend for the roommate
3. No girl friend swapping
4. Crazy B*tchs are a NO GO
5. No Sharing
6. Clean up after

dkim1985

The first part, I can see how you got there..and it's partially true..
I dont feel the need to give her permission to date..but the fact that it's my best friend and the person that I live with, I would have expected the consideration and respect for her to mention it first.

Second part, I do know my friends dirty habits but it's not something that bothers me. If they had a relationship, idk how it would work out.

anddd...i don't understand the reference to this..loll

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T chop

You're making a big deal over nothing........ unless you're jealous.

EnemyS15

You're turning this into a drama episode cause they fucked without giving you a heads up, which if cousin is over 18, doesn't need to. Seems like youre suffering from big brother complex. I would rather know she's banging a buddy that I trust/hold in high regards than find some strange dick that could potentially give her something. As long as your bff understands to respect blood, let them fuck.

theronin

If she over 18 its none of your business. Like really. She's an adult and can make her own decisions. I honestly don't see why you are making such a big deal out of this.

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LB 180SX

i understand shes like a little sister and hes like a brother. however its not your wife/gf so i dont understand the frustration here. they're adults i hope they know what they are doing, if your best friend took advantage of her then thats a different story. the best way is to tell them both how you feel about that in a calm manner. its only hurting you because im sure they're having a great time banging each other. . let it be, im sure you introduced them to each other

dkim1985

..i guess the definition of 'respect' has lost it's value in this world.

as always, appreciate the feedback, zilvia. i'm done.

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treken2t87

I see how you might have wanted a heads up, but some things happen in the heat of the moment. It's almost better if it happened that way, that they didn't come talk to you about it.

In my mind, it would have been more awkward for them to come ask permission right beforehand, and then for everyone to be hanging out afterwards, or the next day. Like someone else mentioned, if there are certain things that you know will bother you, you should make them clear BEFORE the situation arises.

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Blurryeyes

Well, that 'respect' works both ways. If it was consensual and she is over 18, why can´t you respect her decision and not be butthurt about it?

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dkim1985

i know i said i was done...but i just wanted to clarify..
it wasn't 'in the heat of the moment'..they apparently had enough time to discuss it and even for his younger brother to say to both of them individually that it's a bad idea and they should talk to me about it first.

what surprised me was that the little brother(22 yrs) was considerate enough and thought that up himself..he's kind of a douche bag..loll
not that it matters in this situation but i respect him more for it.

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No 240.. No id

What's their age? Ur best friend and your cousin?

dkim1985

i do respect her decision..like i said, if either one of them had expressed interested in the other and had any consideration/respect for the position they were putting me in..i wouldn't have minded as much.

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Brian

What if they have a baby?

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dkim1985

he's 27, she's 21.

i know they can do whatever they want, you guys are missing the point here.

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Young Sileighty Kev

What happened to this "Bro Code" i used to hear about? lol

dkim1985

That's what I'm saying~! loll
Atleast have some respect for your bro to mention your interest in his(or her) family member.

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LB 180SX

i get your point. but the fact of the matter is, it happened. the best thing to do if it bothers you that bad, is talk with him in a calm manner.. arguing will make matters worse. and just understand that shit happens and maybe they feel something for each other

dkim1985

yes i realize that. which is why when he told me and tried to get a response from me i just said, what do u want me to say? it already happened so whatever i say won't matter.

i do plan on talking to him..but like i said in an earlier post..i'm going to wait til things cool down a bit.

out of anybody i know...i probably understand best that sh*t happens and that's just life. which is why i'm not rushing to end up making a stupid decision.

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No 240.. No id

I know how you feeling. I been avoiding this in my life. I have a "big wall" between my freinds and my family. Just to avoids all this.

The one that need to be blamed is your cousin. Because most "Men's" are like dogs. When it comes to sex, they do w.e to get it.

If i were you, ill just get a girl roommate, or move with one.