jilo

ive been with this girl for over six years now, living together for 5, she is 5 years younger than me. our relationship was never great, but has deteriorated for a while and i see it being due to me not being fully interested in her for a long time, getting depressed about it and her losing confidence or respect in me because of it. the girl was never really that interesting to me in that, all we really did was have sex, smoke and hang out. it was never really the relationship that i wanted, i always wanted someone smarter that i could actually share life with, instead of just being there. i clould never really havein depth conversations with her at all. lots of my friends agree that she is an incompitent fuck. well, after 6 years of trying to get this girl to growup and act like an adult, id been getting completely sick of her and her shit, always being messy, not taking responsibility in her life, doing drugs n shit, plenty of stuff.
recently she had started blowing me off, and i knewit was because she was cheating. i called her out on it, but being the weak hearted individual that she is, she completly denied it. i moved out and started getting my life on track. she on the other hand is living with a cokehead drunk that she was cheating on me with, in our old apartment. i tried giving her a second chance and stupidly beleiving her lies. i am or was too insecure to beleive my own instincts about things. i put stuff aside feelings i shouldnt have. she told me nothing happened, that they were friends and her friends just kept her away from me and made the situation worse, and like a fool i started to beleive it.
so for the past two weeks weve been talking about taking it slow and trying to get back together. she has been talking about the slow part alot more than i have though, i let myself get sucked in and hurt and addicted to her. i told her all of this, and she seems to feel bad, she crys and sometimes i beleive her.
ive been beleiving her way too much actually and hurting myself bad from it.
yesterday i found out that a week ago, when we had plans to go out dancing she had blown me off and said her phone was dead. she was actually out with the douchebag kid shes now with.
now that i have further proof of her being a complete and total whore, im wondering what i should do. she dosent know that i fully know. we had plans today to go out, spend the day have fun, get a hotel room and fuck all night.
what id like to do, is absolutley fuck her rotten tonight bust her snatch up real good, and then right as im done tell her i know everything and kick her ass out the hotel room and tell her never to even think of me again.

on the other hand, the kid is going to jail in like a month, and im thinking that if i dont come out with what i know and tell her off, just play her instead of her playing me, wait till shes lonley and wants me (which i absolutley know she does) and fuck her a few times maybe drag her heart through some bs, cheat in front of her, shit like that. when i tell her i dont want her and she can never have me, she freaks out and crys like crazy, so i know she still has something in there for me, however small and stupid it is.

either which way, no matter what i do, since i always felt that she was bad and i protectd myself, shes getting evicted from our old apartment which i never signed the lease to, owes a 1000$ electrical bill in her name, and best of all, I BOUGHT HER 240 VERT SHELL FOR 300 BUCKS! we had gotten a 240 and put my gt30 sr into it and had plans for it to be "our" car. well she needed money and now its mine!!

sorry for the rant but its been a stressful situation. hit me up with some clear headed knowledge.

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Csomme

Dude, just get away. Don't even think, no revenge, just go man. Fuck that shit.


Stop it.

It sounds like you know that you should stop being with her and entertaining her childish ways but you choose not to for some reason. So man up and find another girl or go solo for a while.

DataXUnknown

Be mature, just stop talking to her.

Revenge can be really stupid sometimes. To be honest, I can't even be with a girl that smokes, let alone does drugs. Thats a long relationship, but she fucked you over so just let her go and move on. I wouldn't even waste my time fucking her.

jilo

thats pretty much what my heart is telling me, i just want to do it on my terms so bad and see her feel remorse. ive gotten cheated on by the past two girls i loved and i seem to want to win at the end.

but on the bright side, ive got two or three parties to hit up this weekend so it shouldnt be a problem having fun!

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HyperTek

there is a saying, she knows you will take her back when she makes mistakes, so she is bound to do those same mistakes/cheat again, because she already knows she can come back home to you.

You are the prize, if she messes this up, she looses out on a great guy who actually cared for her and treated her right/and stays out of trouble. It sucks but yeah man, gotta think about yourself that way sometimes, she will miss out on a great guy.

unrelated, but one of my old female friends *shes a freaking skank btw, its like dudes would get in line to get with her because she wouldnt be single for a week and it would always be the next guy who went up to talk to her * well my friend she was going thru rough times with her guy, and she met this dude, they got drunk and yadda yadda.. then she posted it on facebook, how she didnt mean it, saying she could get sex with anyone but only love one person, and eventually she wanted her guy back.. sucker ass dude took her back. I was thinking to myself "poor guy, does he know he got a skank?" So yeah from third person point of view, shit looks bad.

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davirene

Your stuck in circle.....you hurt me...I hurt you....etc....

You yourself said she is inmature and on drugs... just walk...dont look back....There is somebody for everybody out there....and obviously she is not for you...

You should be going out and finding somebody who has the sensibility and stability you seek.....unless you enjoy being used, kicked, and stepped on by a kid? Dont forget about the STD's!!! You said she recently she slept with somebody else....If she caught something it wont show up right away.....so chances are you to will be exposed to whatever she may have caught....

There are so many beautiful (non-crackheaded) women out there....dont stay caught up with one your not happy with!!!

LimeLite Racing

Sounds like you're a good dude. Chicks know they're hard to come
across these days. It's her loss, not yours. Go out and have a good time man. Enjoy your life without all of that extra stress.

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tricky_ab

Don't be a dick...Just break it off and be done with it...

ronmcdon

If you want revenge, focus on doing well for yourself and find someone better.

Wouldn't call what it is love either, and atp I foubt its even infatuation
You were in a rut when together.
You prob feel resmorseful and bitter for losing her, but that's about it.

Ok, hypothetically, let say you get what you want.
She dumps the guy for good and doesn't cheat on any other dude.
You'd be stuck in the same miserable sitution for 5 years.
If it wasn't that great for you, it probably wasn't for her.
Is that really what you want?

Also ask yourself, what type of attention gets you going?
I'm not mocking you.
Everyone likes to get a kick out of some sort of attention.
Some ppl like to fight, it's stimulating.
Despite what they say ("Oh no, I hate drama"), imo actions speak louder than words.
Knowing what you want in life is important.

My advice to you is to try to make the next 5 years more rewarding than the last.
Revenge probably isn't going to further that.
Man up & move on.
Use that anger as a source of motivation.

w0nderbr3ad

Throw poo at her and walk out.

Seriously..just do as everyone else has said and just leave. There's no point wasting energy on someone like that. Do something more constructive and find a girl who likes to talk about her hobbies instead of random intoxicated nonsense/bs. Those type of girls will have those indepth converstaions you seek. Play the field for a while and don't get attached.

naibaf

No matter what we say, you know this sucker is going to go back with this cheating skank. poor fool.

RiversideS13

I know you were hurt but it is the best just walk away. drama sucks and she made many bad decisions.....she needs to face the consequence like an adult now. if she is not as ideal as you would like to spend your rest of life, why waste time and effort. you cannot fix stupid

ToddgoesJapan

It sounds like you just want to get out of it... so do just that, take your car (unless it's in her name) and just move on. Like other people have said, either go solo or find a decent girl... somebody with higher life standards. That's why I don't go for high school relationships, all girls at my school want to do is get high and fuck. So I've been single for pretty much all my school career.

Be the more mature one, don't seek revenge, just drop it and let her fuck up her own life.

zspeedrft

fuck the drama! move on!

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meteorite_flo

OP Something like that thing happened to me, but I just walked away without even telling the bitch why. I just stopped calling/visiting her, I even deleted her number off my phone. Now, she be texting me out the blue with "hi". I just ignore it and act like nothing happened.

EDIT: Plus, there are so many better girls out there anyway.

spoolandslide

That's what happens when you fall in love.

creyes13491

just let her go. be mature about it, cuz if you get your revenge. the problem that you have now might get bigger in the future.

Xplat

Yeah, I'm kind of getting the vibe too that no matter what we say, you're still going to go back to this chick. You've given us waaay more reasons than necessary to break up with her. People break up over lesser reasons, but here you are contemplating whether you should do something about it. Let's be honest, your revenge idea is probably nothing more than a pipe dream. You're talking about this dude she's cheating with like him going to jail in a month is going to fix your relationship.

Also, about her 'feelings' she has for you. OF COURSE she's going to get upset when someone she is DEPENDENT on threatens to leave her sorry ass. She'll say whatever you want to hear just so you won't leave, but that doesn't forgive what she has been doing behind your back and above all thinking she's going to get away with it.

You clearly don't understand how much you're worth as a person, several other people have said it too. You seem like the better person in this relationship. She's only going to hurt you and inhibit you from living your life the way you envision it, but because you have been with her for so long it's kind of become the norm to be with her.

Get this through your head. If you know she is cheating on you, and she thinks she is getting away with it, what makes you think she won't do it again if you stay with her?

Just let her go and move on with your life. You WILL find someone better. I have several friends that broke up 5 or 6+ year relationships only to find someone better whom they are much happier with and even got married / had kids and are happily chugging along with their lives.

I think we all know what you should do, but it's ultimately your decision.

HyperTek

this guy going to jail, females will cling to that shit because they think they need to be there for him.. ive seen it happen b4 and it fucking sucks. It can be frustrating too, esp if females dont always come around for you and you typically get attached to the ones that do.

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drftwerks

holy shit, just bounce.

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treken2t87

The best plan of action is to cut her off completely and, after making sure the car is in your possession legally...make that vert the cleanest one in your city....everytime she sees you rollin' in that clean car, you will have your sweet revenge

Don't waste any more time/effort on her... put it towards bettering yourself. You won't regret it.

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When seeking revenge, make sure to dig two graves. Let it go

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best way to get revenge is to make a sex tape and put it on the intarwebs.
start by posting a pic to garner interest

jilo

trust me, im not a retard or a poor fool. im making an edjucated decision by asking for advice. my mind is just clouded with anger and a hard dick. thanks for YOURE advice. i have a real big problem with people that cheat, and wont take that shit. i was kind enough to give her a second chance by talking to her again, thats it!

i dont think im going to do anything stupid at all. im just going to tell her off and be done with it. theres really no use in making myself feel bad for something i did to an asshole. i can make her feel bad with my words just as easy as anything else. her problem is she actually listens to me, i have always been able to make her see the truth of a situation. what she did with it afterwords was up to her. she never really fufilled me in what i needed out of a gf. i knew i couldnt have kids with her or marry her because of how stupid she acted. i settled for second best for way too long and it fucked my head up. i do second guess myself and think im worth less, and this wil be a turning point for that bullshit. ive got no reason to give a fuck anymore and i plan to use that to my advantage.

although i have been thinking of sending her new buddy a video i took of her sucking my dick just the other day. i think hed like that!
and trust i was never thinking of his going to jail as something that would give me opportunity to fix things. i just see it as proof of how fucking stupid this girl is. i stayed with her through so much bs, taught her so much about cars that shes considering re-ringing her civic herself. i brought this girl from being a 16 yr old kid into supposedly something better. im going to chalk it up to a somewhat good time and thats it. on to bigger and better things. ive got alot to offer a girl that deserves it, and its time to put in work to find it and make it mine.
that was also one thing i never liked about or relationship, there was no chase. she came on to me real strong from thebeginning and jsut started staying with me over and over till we lived with each other. come to think of it, she was probably just using me emotionally for a long time. oh well fuck it, no use worrying about someone who didnt make me happy all the way.

thanks for all the words people! have a good summer i know im gonna. plenty of better pussy to go for!

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DIY shot peen, done and done."

blasting_speed

That's a big age difference. I stopped there. That was your problem.

2 years, 3 years. Maybe. 5??? You might as well have gone 10 years and hoped to make a family with her.

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R_G

_With all the info you have given, i can easily say.
She was never serious with you , she was lost . You came along and you showed her a full range of emotions and she probably enjoyed that. It sounds like you gave her Respect.
Your problem was that you took care of her and she knew that you would be there for her. I hate to say it but , you acted like a father or a mother . She could screw up and you were there for her .

_You problem with her is that you probably never loved her, you where just really attached. You probably wanted a best friend and you found some common ground with said girl and you started to get attached.
_Get you life on track and forget about her. Do not look for a relationship with anyone until you know that you are almost done with getting your life on track and go out and have fun. There is more but , that's enough. You have realized this a long time but you needed some on to talk about it.
Find some different friends that she does not know. Find positive friendships and good people to hang out with . Get plenty of friends that are girls and hot ones helps out , they come in handy when you have girl problems.

I wish you the best of luck.
" PARTY ON DUDE "

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ToddgoesJapan

A what kind of decision?

drift freaq

A 5 year age difference between 2 mature people is nothing. The problem lies in the fact that he started with a underage girl, when he was 21. That was the first problem.
Second problem is neither of them are fully matured people yet. Some girls manage to be fully matured by 21 but most do not get there till they are around 24.
Men are lucky to be mature by 24 and usually are not till 27(sorry guys its just the truth you realize as you get older) its just the way things are. IMO

Now there are exceptions but in this case? Does not sound like it.

OP move on, she has issues and is playing games. By your own words you do love her.
She has not proven remorseful about her actions in truth.

Being best friends is important in a relationship but it does not always mean that the the two people can be together.

I would let her know that the car is not hers to keep. You were not married. LOL P

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Just bounce on that bitch.

Hardest part is to continue ignoring her, but you gotta stay strong man.

Kaizen.

The best revenge is massive success.

You came in this world by yourself, your going to die by yourself. A coffin is only made for one person, you don't need her in your life.

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