My best friend(roommate) slept with my little cousin??

[dkim1985]

DISCLAIMER
Feel free to read for your entertainment. There's just a lot going through my mind and I need to get it down somehow.

[Brian]

weird.
better search your soul.
Maybe there is something you aren't telling us.

[feito]

Why ecxactly is this bothering u? Unless she is under 18 they're both adults and its their decision to make. Would u have prefered if they told u they were gonna do it just for fun? Like he^ said, either youre not tellin us something else or i just dont see a reason to be pissed. I could understand being just uncomfortable.

[SoCalDrifter]

as long as he didnt fuck ur cousin over and give her AIDS or break her heart i think everythings going to be ok bro

[Matej]

This is not the 19th century where prior to the mandatory annual deed one must compose a declaration for preparation to fornicate to be hastened to all whom it may concern.

[Blurryeyes]

It sounds like you are more pissed off about the fact that she got boned in the first place. Do you get a funny feeling in your crotch when you see her?

[XxHybridx]

DISCLAIMER


If it was anybody else..I'd beat the living sh*t out of them and leave them in a puddle of their own blood so they remember what they did..




seems like your mad because she got laid, and not because it was your best friend? I don't understand. Did you want your little cousin(like your little sister) to be a virgin forever? That's life yo.

[dkim1985]

The way they both handled the situation is what bothers me most.
I understand that whatever is going on between them is their business.
But considering my relationship with both of them, I expected a certain level of respect and courtesy.

He's been like a brother to me and I respect him more than my own real brother.
When there ever was a girl that was interested in him or him in her..I would back off. Even if I was interested in that girl, I wouldn't do anything without talking to him about it first. If it came to anyone in his family, i wouldn't even consider it.

As for my cousin... you guys need to get off that incest sh*t. that's just getting weird. loll
I just expected better from her..not that she chose him, but that she should of taken into consideration of my relationship with him and it was in my house. If she had talked to me about it first, I probably wouldn't have minded as much.

From their action, I feel like it just makes it clear to me the level of respect they have toward me isn't the same.
If they end up together, that's fine. I don't really care. What happened, happened and there's nothing I can do to change that.
Again, it's just the way they handled the situation.

[dkim1985]

seems like your mad because she got laid, and not because it was your best friend? I don't understand. Did you want your little cousin(like your little sister) to be a virgin forever? That's life yo.

Maybe that wasn't as clear as I meant it.
If it was some other guy..I wouldn't do anything.
If it was any of my other friends..then I would. Because they all know who she is and how much she means to me.

She's already had sex with guys. That's not an issue here.

[PeaceOnesxWai]

I think you have a authoritative sense over your cousin and the feeling, that even though its your best friend, you would want him to respect you as you were the guardian and your permission for him to see your cousin.

That or you know your friends dirty habits and know they wouldnt work out for your cousin which will end in a bad break up.


Never underestimate the power of denial.

[fastandlow]

Lay down the rules before hand
1. No having sex with anothers family members in the house
2. Always have the girl bring a friend for the roommate
3. No girl friend swapping
4. Crazy B*tchs are a NO GO
5. No Sharing
6. Clean up after

[dkim1985]

I think you have a authoritative sense over your cousin and the feeling, that even though its your best friend, you would want him to respect you as you were the guardian and your permission for him to see your cousin.

That or you know your friends dirty habits and know they wouldnt work out for your cousin which will end in a bad break up.
The first part, I can see how you got there..and it's partially true..
I dont feel the need to give her permission to date..but the fact that it's my best friend and the person that I live with, I would have expected the consideration and respect for her to mention it first.

Second part, I do know my friends dirty habits but it's not something that bothers me. If they had a relationship, idk how it would work out.

Never underestimate the power of denial.
anddd...i don't understand the reference to this..loll

[T chop]

You're making a big deal over nothing........ unless you're jealous.

[EnemyS15]

You're turning this into a drama episode cause they fucked without giving you a heads up, which if cousin is over 18, doesn't need to. Seems like youre suffering from big brother complex. I would rather know she's banging a buddy that I trust/hold in high regards than find some strange dick that could potentially give her something. As long as your bff understands to respect blood, let them fuck.

[theronin]

If she over 18 its none of your business. Like really. She's an adult and can make her own decisions. I honestly don't see why you are making such a big deal out of this.

[LB 180SX]

i understand shes like a little sister and hes like a brother. however its not your wife/gf so i dont understand the frustration here. they're adults i hope they know what they are doing, if your best friend took advantage of her then thats a different story. the best way is to tell them both how you feel about that in a calm manner. its only hurting you because im sure they're having a great time banging each other. . let it be, im sure you introduced them to each other

[dkim1985]

..i guess the definition of 'respect' has lost it's value in this world.

as always, appreciate the feedback, zilvia. i'm done.

[treken2t87]

I see how you might have wanted a heads up, but some things happen in the heat of the moment. It's almost better if it happened that way, that they didn't come talk to you about it.

In my mind, it would have been more awkward for them to come ask permission right beforehand, and then for everyone to be hanging out afterwards, or the next day. Like someone else mentioned, if there are certain things that you know will bother you, you should make them clear BEFORE the situation arises.

[Blurryeyes]

..i guess the definition of 'respect' has lost it's value in this world.

as always, appreciate the feedback, zilvia. i'm done.

Well, that 'respect' works both ways. If it was consensual and she is over 18, why can´t you respect her decision and not be butthurt about it?

[dkim1985]

I see how you might have wanted a heads up, but some things happen in the heat of the moment. It's almost better if it happened that way, that they didn't come talk to you about it.

In my mind, it would have been more awkward for them to come ask permission right beforehand, and then for everyone to be hanging out afterwards, or the next day. Like someone else mentioned, if there are certain things that you know will bother you, you should make them clear BEFORE the situation arises.

i know i said i was done...but i just wanted to clarify..
it wasn't 'in the heat of the moment'..they apparently had enough time to discuss it and even for his younger brother to say to both of them individually that it's a bad idea and they should talk to me about it first.

what surprised me was that the little brother(22 yrs) was considerate enough and thought that up himself..he's kind of a douche bag..loll
not that it matters in this situation but i respect him more for it.

[No 240.. No id]

What's their age? Ur best friend and your cousin?

[dkim1985]

Well, that 'respect' works both ways. If it was consensual and she is over 18, why can´t you respect her decision and not be butthurt about it?

i do respect her decision..like i said, if either one of them had expressed interested in the other and had any consideration/respect for the position they were putting me in..i wouldn't have minded as much.

[Brian]

What if they have a baby?

[dkim1985]

What's their age? Ur best friend and your cousin?

he's 27, she's 21.

i know they can do whatever they want, you guys are missing the point here.

[Young Sileighty Kev]

What happened to this "Bro Code" i used to hear about? lol

[dkim1985]

What happened to this "Bro Code" i used to hear about? lol

That's what I'm saying~! loll
Atleast have some respect for your bro to mention your interest in his(or her) family member.

[LB 180SX]

he's 27, she's 21.

i know they can do whatever they want, you guys are missing the point here.

i get your point. but the fact of the matter is, it happened. the best thing to do if it bothers you that bad, is talk with him in a calm manner.. arguing will make matters worse. and just understand that shit happens and maybe they feel something for each other

[dkim1985]

i get your point. but the fact of the matter is, it happened. the best thing to do if it bothers you that bad, is talk with him in a calm manner.. arguing will make matters worse. and just understand that shit happens and maybe they feel something for each other

yes i realize that. which is why when he told me and tried to get a response from me i just said, what do u want me to say? it already happened so whatever i say won't matter.

i do plan on talking to him..but like i said in an earlier post..i'm going to wait til things cool down a bit.

out of anybody i know...i probably understand best that sh*t happens and that's just life. which is why i'm not rushing to end up making a stupid decision.

[Daniel.]

http://weknowmemes.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/06/dude-i-think-youre-overreacting.jpg

[No 240.. No id]

I know how you feeling. I been avoiding this in my life. I have a "big wall" between my freinds and my family. Just to avoids all this.

The one that need to be blamed is your cousin. Because most "Men's" are like dogs. When it comes to sex, they do w.e to get it.

If i were you, ill just get a girl roommate, or move with one.

[Corbic]

As for my cousin... you guys need to get off that incest sh*t. that's just getting weird. loll
I just expected better from her..not that she chose him, but that she should of taken into consideration of my relationship with him and it was in my house. If she had talked to me about it first, I probably wouldn't have minded as much.


http://www.freudpage.com/images/modifiedfreud11.jpg

Freud does not believe you.

Your reaction indicates that either you want to nail her.... or you want your bro to nail you.

Obviously they are acting weird around you because if you are pissed off enough to vent online they are getting those "vibes" from you. Do you really expect her - or anyone female friend you know to be like "hey mon, I'm totally aching for some hard dick.... so can I let your room mate pound me tomorrow night?"

[dkim1985]

Your reaction indicates that either you want to nail her.... or you want your bro to nail you.

Obviously they are acting weird around you because if you are pissed off enough to vent online they are getting those "vibes" from you. Do you really expect her - or anyone female friend you know to be like "hey mon, I'm totally aching for some hard dick.... so can I let your room mate pound me tomorrow night?"

wowww...you really took that the wrong way. loll
actually..i never said they're acting weird around me..I've actually haven't really seen either of them since he told me.
haven't even heard from her..and i haven't seen him since then because either i'm not home or he's not home. ...so i have no idea where you're getting that from. lol

[ghoti]

http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-UghOu3M60pU/TqysOrX9n3I/AAAAAAAAAKs/bmKoU3qev1c/s1600/Suicide_gun.jpg

an hero
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[Taniguchi_Is_#1]

meh. if you want to throw down, don't ask about it on the internet. if you're mad, be mad. if you don't care, don't care. if you wanna hit it, hit it. if you have to ask on the internet, you don't know how to be alive.

[jordaninnovations]

Hmmmm Torrance....wanna be friends?

[theronin]

Bro code is not banging a friends ex. It has nothing to do with family members. Respect has nothing to do with it. I seriously can't believe this is something you are so heated about.

[Young Sileighty Kev]

So you say a friends ex is more of an off limits than your friends own family member?

[kandyflip445]

Grow the fuck up.

[ESmorz]

So you say a friends ex is more of an off limits than your friends own family member?

Family members won't be comparing dicks.

Also, OP is a bundle of sticks.

[Corbic]

Family members won't be comparing dicks.


Exactly.

It should be obvious why an ex is off limits. Family is only "off limits" when the friend is taking advantage of them and it's gonna cause drama or something.

Other "bro code" off limits are when your like "dood, that katie chick rocks, I'm gonna ask her out".... next day "ya know how you said that katie chick was hot? you're right, totally hit that shit this afternoon".

[vas13hatch]

Also, OP is a bundle of sticks.
lol or a cigarette if you're British...

[Corbic]

lol or a cigarette if you're British...

I just got that.

:bowrofl:

[89s13sd]

Should have joined in.

[future]

Shout out to your best friend for having the balls to fuck in the same house two room downs with her cousin

[Phlip]

The way they both handled the situation is what bothers me most.
I understand that whatever is going on between them is their business.
But considering my relationship with both of them, I expected a certain level of respect and courtesy.

He's been like a brother to me and I respect him more than my own real brother.
When there ever was a girl that was interested in him or him in her..I would back off. Even if I was interested in that girl, I wouldn't do anything without talking to him about it first. If it came to anyone in his family, i wouldn't even consider it.

As for my cousin... you guys need to get off that incest sh*t. that's just getting weird. loll
I just expected better from her..not that she chose him, but that she should of taken into consideration of my relationship with him and it was in my house. If she had talked to me about it first, I probably wouldn't have minded as much.

From their action, I feel like it just makes it clear to me the level of respect they have toward me isn't the same.
If they end up together, that's fine. I don't really care. What happened, happened and there's nothing I can do to change that.
Again, it's just the way they handled the situation.
They owe you NOTHING.
If they are both consenting adults, and he is properly paying his half of the bills to the place, and did not ply her with drugs or alcohol, then neither owed you the request for your blessing. In fact, it is YOU who lack respect in your broad-sweeping assumption that everyone she dates needs to have your cosign or approval. Furthermore, the fact that you're SO pissed that it was him that did suggests to me that you think that he is some kind of scumbag who you feel is beneath getting involved with a family member and that you do not respect him as much as you claim you do. She is an adult and is free to make her own mistakes unless she is your dependent, and even then you only have so much control if she is over the age of 18.

..i guess the definition of 'respect' has lost it's value in this world.
If the woman in question is not your daughter, ex or sister (in THAT order of importance), the only respect he owes you was to not fuck her in the living room while you were trying to play COD.
As long as your personal space or right to indifference were not violated, then you have been given all of the "respect" you have earned, unless of course there were some rules of engagement put forth before any of this happened and THEN got violated.

he's 27, she's 21.

i know they can do whatever they want, you guys are missing the point here.
Actually, you're the one who is missing the point in your assumption that ADULTS owe it to you to seek your permission to do the things that adults do.




Also, all of the "in for pics" posts in this thread have been deleted.
Grow the fuck up, people.

[SimpleS14]

How did it go down? I mean...was alcohol involved? Have they always been on the DL?

Seems like she's probably ashamed to confront you at the moment. You might want to talk to her to break any awkwardness between you two.

[itsjustdaphne]

Why the hell would this be posted on Zilvia. This is basically a personal rant and story about something we all don't log on to read. Everyone bothering to voice their opinion must be real bored.

[Juantwo3]

OP your coming of creeepy like your jealous your best friend piped down your cuz

the only thing you shouuld be mad about if he hurts her feelings or beats her or somthing of that nature

who she fucks 2 doors down in your house is non of your concern dont matter if its your homie or 5 guys she met at the park.

no go find his cuzin and pee in her butt and call it even

[VNG704]

Should you be uncomfortable? Sure. Should you be mad? At first, due to being uncomfortable but then let it go because (the reasons posted in this thread.)

[JVD]

I boned my cousins best friend. My cousin was also my roommate. I also boned her in the next room.

My cousin didn't give a shit.

THANK.

[KiLLeR2001]

wowww...you really took that the wrong way. loll
actually..i never said they're acting weird around me..I've actually haven't really seen either of them since he told me.
haven't even heard from her..and i haven't seen him since then because either i'm not home or he's not home. ...so i have no idea where you're getting that from. lol

They probably had sex right on your bed when you were away. Better change your sheets.

[ManoNegra]

OP you sound like you have 'issues' buried deep down
my advice to you would be to go see a psychologist

[dkim1985]

How did it go down? I mean...was alcohol involved? Have they always been on the DL?

Seems like she's probably ashamed to confront you at the moment. You might want to talk to her to break any awkwardness between you two.
Alcohol was involved but they were both coherent enough to think and talk about it, even to his younger brother. I don't think they've been on the DL..I think it was just that one night that he told me about when it started. If theres more, I don't know about it. I don't really care. (i was going to type up why here but i feel like im just repeating myself so..)
I'm assuming she is..I will talk to both of them when the time's right.

Why the hell would this be posted on Zilvia. This is basically a personal rant and story about something we all don't log on to read. Everyone bothering to voice their opinion must be real bored.
I agree. Like I said in my first post..I just have a lot on my mind and wanted to get it down. Never asked for anyone's advice in here and don't really expect anyone here to fully understand the situation.

[!Zar!]

He doesn't need to ask you for consent. He isn't asking to marry(fuck) your daughter.

[Tywin]

Ok before I respond, who the fuck sits around and talks about sexing each other up in front of one's little brother?

[dkim1985]

Ok before I respond, who the fuck sits around and talks about sexing each other up in front of one's little brother?
lol uhhh yeah..i don't think that's how it went down.
i think it was just something the little brother noticed and decided to bring it up while talking to them individually.
(them three were hanging out previously before being at the house)

[Tywin]

Ahh I see.

You should really just let it ride. We don't know the background behind the relationship that they had before having sex. If they were courting each before or they just decided to have random sex. Either or, it should only matter if your cousin gets fucked over by your roommate or not. I can understand why you feel a certain way about the situation, though. They are going to do what they want no matter how you feel. They are adults, it only makes sense. You can't be mad that your cousin decided to get her freak ownnnnnnnnnnn with someone who happens to be roommate. Me personally, family is off limits unless they're seriously attempting to be with my fam.

[Tywin]

Or fuck his cousin and everyone is happy.

[KiLLeR2001]

Or fuck his cousin and everyone is happy.

REPARATIONS!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=-fscN4yfuJs#t=151s

[dkim1985]

Ahh I see.

You should really just let it ride. We don't know the background behind the relationship that they had before having sex. If they were courting each before or they just decided to have random sex. Either or, it should only matter if your cousin gets fucked over by your roommate or not. I can understand why you feel a certain way about the situation, though. They are going to do what they want no matter how you feel. They are adults, it only makes sense. You can't be mad that your cousin decided to get her freak ownnnnnnnnnnn with someone who happens to be roommate. Me personally, family is off limits unless they're seriously attempting to be with my fam.
i agree.. and i feel the same way about the last part as well.

Or fuck his cousin and everyone is happy.
yeah...even now, i don't think i can do that. call me old fashioned but a part of me still holds on to values like respect, honor, trust..even if the other person doesn't follow them. ..maybe it's because i'm asian.

...and there isn't really any of his cousins i'd want to smash(from the ones i've met). except maybe one...but that b*tch be crazy! so pass~ ..loll

[Tywin]

But I'm Asian too... Lol

[dkim1985]

REPARATIONS!

Seinfeld India - YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=-fscN4yfuJs#t=151s)
woww..that sh*t was complicated. loll

But I'm Asian too... Lol
crap...that's not it then...
i retract the first statement and just stick to the second one..lolll

[1 88 U]

Why the hell would this be posted on Zilvia. This is basically a personal rant and story about something we all don't log on to read. Everyone bothering to voice their opinion must be real bored.

Oh shut up, this thread made my day.

[1 88 U]

I boned my cousins best friend. My cousin was also my roommate. I also boned her in the next room.

My cousin didn't give a shit.

THANK.

:eek3: Your cousin or cousins friend? :eek3:

[dkim1985]

Oh shut up, this thread made my day.
LOL
:eek3: Your cousin or cousins friend? :eek3:
..this had me confused at first too..made me stop and go wtf???
i think he's saying he boned his cousin's friend in the next room. loll

[Daniel.]

http://www.reddit.com/r/incest/

[dreaMervaj]

This thread is quite interesting.......

I say bang his crazy cousin or hook a brotha up. Lmao!

[Phlip]

yeah...even now, i don't think i can do that. call me old fashioned but a part of me still holds on to values like respect, honor, trust..even if the other person doesn't follow them. ..maybe it's because i'm asian.
I will repeat: you VERY apparently either don’t understand respect or do not respect this dude as much as you say you do. Furthermore, you do not respect or trust her if you cannot let her make her own decisions without you holding her hand.

[bc.]

well, they are gonna date and the break-up will not be good and then someone will need to move out, boom, done.

Also, *ADMIN EDIT* I can't read so I will repeat this lame-ass question.

[dkim1985]

I will repeat: you VERY apparently either don’t understand respect or do not respect this dude as much as you say you do. Furthermore, you do not respect or trust her if you cannot let her make her own decisions without you holding her hand.
personally, i think its just because you don't completely understand the current situation, and i'm not obligated to tell you. i never asked for your input, guidance, feedback, criticism ..or whatever else you want to call it. but i'll oblige..

i do respect him and i do respect her and trust her to make her own decisions.
i did say, given the current situation, if they would of had the respect and courtesy toward me to talk to me about it first, i wouldn't be so bothered by it and probably would let them do whatever they wanted. You're taking it out of perspective by assuming i can say who she can and can't date, that's not what i'm saying. Obviously, the person she's trying to hook up with is MY friend and MY roommate whom I live with. Out of respect towards ME..it would of been the proper thing to do. i don't care who she dates. her last bf was an asshole and she even asked what i thought about him before she got with him. i was honest and said i didn't like him but if that's who she wants to be with then there's nothing i can do about it, as long as she's happy. In that situation, she didn't have to say anything to me or asking anything of me, i wouldn't have cared..but she did anyways even though i don't know the guy.

As for my friend, as a person, I still do respect him, never said i didn't. And if we were in opposite positions, I would talk to him first before trying ANYTHING when it came to family..even when it's not family and just some girl that has any associate with him. THAT'S RESPECT.

I said it before and I'll say it again. I have enough respect for him to say if there's anyone in this world that I would approve of for my cousin to be in a relationship with, it would be him. But given the current situation(that you don't understand)..he should of atleast said something.
I have no plans to f*ck with him or to start sh*t or anything. In fact, I was probably just going to keep my mouth shut and try to move on from it. But I found out that he actually wants me to talk to him about it. so out of respect for him, I will.

AGAIN, I don't assume you to understand my situation and I'm not asking for your input. I accented the word 'respect' for you just incase you felt the need to point that out again.

[PeaceOnesxWai]

Dam asians... Your over thinking this too much

[!Zar!]

Scenario 1: OP's cousin asks op if she can fuck his friend.

Scenario 2: OP's friend asks if he can fuck his cousin.

Scenario 3: Neither OP's friend nor cousin ask if they can fuck each other, and just go ahead and fuck.

Any time someone is about to fuck, I doubt the first thing going on in their mind is. 'gee, I should tell my cousin and see if he's okay with me doing this'.

Chances are the only person making things awkward in your household is you.

[PeaceOnesxWai]

Stop overthinking the situation in your mind and go out to talk about it with them. If your just here to vent about it noone will give you the solution you want. Play it out your way and with people that affected you.

You dont have to come out and just put them on point either. Just sit down with your buddy and joke around with him, tell him that wasnt cool.. its awkward now to see her. Same goes for your cousin.. "Your going out with my roomate?! wth!"

Theres alot of immature people in here with no relationship experience, your really gonna ask them how you will situate this?

[dkim1985]

Scenario 1: OP's cousin asks op if she can fuck his friend.

Scenario 2: OP's friend asks if he can fuck his cousin.

Scenario 3: Neither OP's friend nor cousin ask if they can fuck each other, and just go ahead and fuck.

Any time someone is about to fuck, I doubt the first thing going on in their mind is. 'gee, I should tell my cousin and see if he's okay with me doing this'.

Chances are the only person making things awkward in your household is you.
actually..probably not true since i haven't said anything to anyone in the house. and if someone we know asks me about it i just say, "i have nothing to say. it is what it is."
i haven't seen or heard from her(she lives somewhere else.)
i haven't seen my roommate because for whatever reason, we're not home at the same time. today was actually the first time he's said anything to me.

[dkim1985]

Stop overthinking the situation in your mind and go out to talk about it with them. If your just here to vent about it noone will give you the solution you want. Play it out your way and with people that affected you.

You dont have to come out and just put them on point either. Just sit down with your buddy and joke around with him, tell him that wasnt cool.. its awkward now to see her. Same goes for your cousin.. "Your going out with my roomate?! wth!"

Theres alot of immature people in here with no relationship experience, your really gonna ask them how you will situate this?
..do you see anywhere me asking for help or other peoples input? no.
personally..i think everyone here is making a bigger deal about it than i am.

like i said...again...i do plan on talking to them about it when the time is right.

[ghost_silvia]

So it's safe to say you vented, got different opinions and had some laughs?
Next time you know better than to vent to complete strangers.
Case closed!

[Daniel.]

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[Brian]

Taboo .

[drift freaq]

The one that need to be blamed is your cousin. Because most "Men's" are like dogs. When it comes to sex, they do w.e to get it.
.

Blame his cousin? WTF she is a legal adult. She is not direct family like a sister and even if she was its her decision.


Theres alot of immature people in here with no relationship experience, your really gonna ask them how you will situate this?

Nothing personal man but even at 21 you are far from being fully mature or understanding interpersonal relationships completely . Men do not reach real emotional maturity till around the age of 27. Sorry guys its a psychological fact. Women hit it around 21-24 but men do not get there till around 25 at the earliest. Any guy under the age of 25 has still got a lot to learn in and out of relationships. Any women under the age of 23 usually still has a lot to learn as well in and out of relationships.
Just accept that you have a lot to learn and move on.

..do you see anywhere me asking for help or other peoples input? no.
personally..i think everyone here is making a bigger deal about it than i am.

like i said...again...i do plan on talking to them about it when the time is right.


Hmmm you posted here ranting about it. Tried to put a disclaimer on it as well.
If you did not want other peoples inputs you would have not post in the first place.

Seriously you are making more out of this and in doing so getting reactions from people and reacting to those reactions.
If you really didn't want to discuss it more than you would have stopped posting already.
Yet you feel a need a to defend your position even though you say you don't care.

Do you enjoy contradicting yourself throughout this thread? Do you have a I am a father figure issue going on with your cousin?



Don't answer these as they really are rhetorical. You do need to sit down and look at how you really feel about your position in this. Regardless of what you say your actions are showing otherwise.

In fact the way you state you will be talking to them completely comes off like a parent talking to their children.

[Mr. Camshaft]

FFS you're not her dad. Get over it. :picardfp:

[KiLLeR2001]

Yep, it is time to lock this one up.

:lockd:

[dkim1985]

Blame his cousin? WTF she is a legal adult. She is not direct family like a sister and even if she was its her decision.



Nothing personal man but even at 21 you are far from being fully mature or understanding interpersonal relationships completely . Men do not reach real emotional maturity till around the age of 27. Sorry guys its a psychological fact. Women hit it around 21-24 but men do not get there till around 25 at the earliest. Any guy under the age of 25 has still got a lot to learn in and out of relationships. Any women under the age of 23 usually still has a lot to learn as well in and out of relationships.
Just accept that you have a lot to learn and move on.




Hmmm you posted here ranting about it. Tried to put a disclaimer on it as well.
If you did not want other peoples inputs you would have not post in the first place.

Seriously you are making more out of this and in doing so getting reactions from people and reacting to those reactions.
If you really don't want to discuss it more than you would have stopped posting already.
Yet you feel a need a to defend your position even though you say you don't care.

Do you enjoy contradicting yourself throughout this thread? Do you have a I am a father figure issue going on with your cousin?



Don't answer these as they really are rhetorical. You do need to sit down and look at how you really feel about your position in this. Regardless of what you say your actions are showing otherwise.

In fact the way you state you will be talking to them completely comes off like a parent talking to their children.
i can post and reply to whatever i want. i dont care what you say.
my point was stated in the OP..if you don't like it, go read something else.

[TougeLove]

i dont want to be a dick, and this is more for your self reflection but,

could you get over yourself and/or lose the sense of entitlement.

again, this is not for me to be an ass or make fun of you, but for you to consider one or both of those options. best of luck.

if you take this the wrong way you can go fuck yourself ;) :D

[drift freaq]

i can post and reply to whatever i want. i dont care what you say.
my point was stated in the OP..if you don't like it, go read something else.
LOL I have neither a like or dislike towards your post. LOL You seem to be missing the most obvious about yourself here. I am just pointing that out.

I posted the point that you have repeatedly contradicted your own words about not caring in this thread by reacting showing that you do care. If you can not se that then I suggest you not post at all.

Oh and P.S. if you did not care what I had to say you would not have responded to my post in the first place.

Oh and if you don't want others to post in a thread like this don't start it in the first place.
You have brought this upon yourself and now you can't seem to deal with it. Much like you can't seem to deal with the issue you posted in the first place.

See the pattern here? This is more about you than them.

Oh and again the last question was again rhetorical.

[dkim1985]

i dont want to be a dick, and this is more for your self reflection but,

could you get over yourself and/or lose the sense of entitlement.

again, this is not for me to be an ass or make fun of you, but for you to consider one or both of those options. best of luck.

if you take this the wrong way you can go fuck yourself ;) :D

LOL no. go fuck yourself~ :boink:

[dkim1985]

LOL I have neither a like or dislike towards your post. LOL You seem to be missing the most obvious about yourself here. I am just pointing that out.

I posted the point that you have repeatedly contradicted your own words about not caring in this thread by reacting showing that you do care. If you can not se that then I suggest you not post at all.

Oh and P.S. if you did not care what I had to say you would not have responded to my post in the first place.

Oh and if you don't want others to post in a thread like this don't start it in the first place.
You have brought this upon yourself and now you can't seem to deal with it. Much like you can't seem to deal with the issue you posted in the first place.

See the pattern here? This is more about you than them.
ACTUALLYYY...i really don't care. i'm just bored and at work. this gives me something to do. sooo in a way i should be thanking you~ thanks!

[PeaceOnesxWai]

Nothing personal man but even at 21 you are far from being fully mature or understanding interpersonal relationships completely . Men do not reach real emotional maturity till around the age of 27. Sorry guys its a psychological fact. Women hit it around 21-24 but men do not get there till around 25 at the earliest. Any guy under the age of 25 has still got a lot to learn in and out of relationships. Any women under the age of 23 usually still has a lot to learn as well in and out of relationships.
Just accept that you have a lot to learn and move on.


I have alot to learn but judging from OP's response hes really in denial and problems with confrontation. I was suggesting to him to just confront his issue instead of asking the board.. 90% of the replies were incoherent to his matter (incest, not getting some frustration, bundle of sticks, in for the pics).

But i agree, OPs just ranting and contradicting himself

[PeaceOnesxWai]

ACTUALLYYY...i really don't care. i'm just bored and at work. this gives me something to do. sooo in a way i should be thanking you~ thanks!

Once again, denial at its fullest.

[KiLLeR2001]

This would not be a concern or even a thread if the OP had a steady flow of vagina at his disposal. What I see is a case of his buddy getting some ass, while hes on the forefront of an epic drought.

[dkim1985]

I have alot to learn but judging from OP's response hes really in denial and problems with confrontation. I was suggesting to him to just confront his issue instead of asking the board.. 90% of the replies were incoherent to his matter (incest, not getting some frustration, bundle of sticks, in for the pics).

But i agree, OPs just ranting and contradicting himself
you guys seem to have a habit of taking in only the information you choose to.
This would not be a concern or even a thread if the OP had a steady flow of vagina at his disposal. This is clearly a case of his buddy getting some ass while hes on an epic drought.
LOL sure. that MUST be it.

[dkim1985]

This would not be a concern or even a thread if the OP had a steady flow of vagina at his disposal. What I see is a case of his buddy getting some ass, while hes on the forefront of an epic drought.

huh....thats funny. this made me just realize something...i think it's the opposite. my roommate hasn't been getting any since he broke up with his gf awhile back.. and i think my cousin is the first person he's slept with since his ex.. o_O

[KiLLeR2001]

huh....thats funny. this made me just realize something...i think it's the opposite. my roommate hasn't been getting any since he broke up with his gf awhile back.. and i think my cousin is the first person he's slept with since his ex.. o_O


yeah...even now, i don't think i can do that. call me old fashioned but a part of me still holds on to values like respect, honor, trust..even if the other person doesn't follow them. ..maybe it's because i'm asian.


If you're old-fashioned than you aren't having sex until your married... So what's it gonna be? When was the last time you penetrated a human vagina of legal age?

[dkim1985]

If you're old-fashioned than you aren't having sex until your married... So what's it gonna be? When was the last time you penetrated a human vagina of legal age?
see..this where i feel like i need to inform you because you for some reason think i'm Amish or some sh*t just because i said i'm kind of old fashioned when referring to having respect and honor.
there's no reason for me to tell you the last time i had sex..that's irrelevant in this discussion and now you're just saying sh*t for no reason.

[KiLLeR2001]

see..this where i feel like i need to inform you because you for some reason think i'm Amish or some sh*t just because i said i'm kind of old fashioned when referring to having respect and honor.
there's no reason for me to tell you the last time i had sex..that's irrelevant in this discussion and now you're just saying sh*t for no reason.

Yes because waiting until marriage is strictly an Amish tradition... LOL.

Also, is there any reason why you are self-censoring your obscenities? Is this another form of old-fashioned I am not aware of?

[PeaceOnesxWai]

you guys seem to have a habit of taking in only the information you choose to.


enough info we need to read to tell what kind of person you are


Your responses of denial and the need to rebuddle on every statements shows us your immature level of being and having the need to always prove dominance. The more you say, the deeper you dig yourself.

Youve made yourself the public enemy so let the flame being!

[wangan_cruiser]

i didnt read the whole thread but it seems like you have feelings for your lil cousin thats why you are frustrated.

[dkim1985]

'-__- this thread has gotten totally retarded. mods are welcome to lock. im done.

[mulinmoua]

Two adults having sex bothers u? Did u tell them that they couldn't have sex with each other? Is he a mind reader? Shit happens, move on, unless they banged on ur bed then I be pissed.

[zspeedrft]

post pic of your cousin.....

[Daniel.]

I feel like this would be better suited for Livejournal, or Xanga, or some GeoCities page.

Hey, have you guys seen this cool dancing baby yet?
http://www.11points.com/images/animatedgifs/dancingbaby2.gif

[Brian]

I feel like this would be better suited for Livejournal, or Xanga, or some GeoCities page.

Hey, have you guys seen this cool dancing baby yet?
http://www.11points.com/images/animatedgifs/dancingbaby2.gif


haha. better friend them on friendster too

[rb25_s13*CHUKI]

I'd want to know if my sister or cousin was fucking my best friend so i can have a talk with my friend. break her heart I'll break your body, my sister to you isn't just some booty call. Either relationship or nothing, unless my sister or cousin was a complete whore then i wouldn't care apparenly people on zilvia don't care if they're friend fucks they're cousin or sister for fun. not thinking maybe she might catch feelings and ur best friend was just looking to bust a nut.

If It's a random guy then what can you do nothing but let her live and learn, If it's a close friend you just let him know how you feel about the situation. unless she's down with being his booty call then you just gotta let it go and let her make her own choice. if she likes him and he just wants that quick nut then you gotta let him know

[S14DB]

o6T6veL5zWM

[Phlip]

If you're old-fashioned than you aren't having sex until your married... So what's it gonna be? When was the last time you penetrated a human vagina of legal age?

Don't you get it? By getting drunk with his cousin and mutually agreeing to the smash, his friend has to either defend her honor by marrying her before Spring or he will have to kill his roommate.
Then who will pay the other half of the rent?

[KiLLeR2001]

Don't you get it? By getting drunk with his cousin and mutually agreeing to the smash, his friend has to either defend her honor by marrying her before Spring or he will have to kill his roommate.
Then who will pay the other half of the rent?

LOL. I haven't laughed that hard from a post in a long time. Good work kind sir. :bigok:

[ATLspeed]

Lay down the rules before hand
1. No having sex with anothers family members in the house
2. Always have the girl bring a friend for the roommate
3. No girl friend swapping
4. Crazy B*tchs are a NO GO
5. No Sharing
6. Clean up after

Same thing me and my coworker/friend did. I let him rent out a room in my house and the first thing we discussed were the rules.
Main ones being:

1. What ever girl you see is just who you see.
2. If we both have someone over let them know the business never leaves the house.
3. If you have sexy time in the commons (living room, etc) keep all bodily fluids off the furniture

[chuki.s13.coupe.]

Don't you have a girlfriend you can talk to?

[!Zar!]

So how big are her tits?

[rb25_s13*CHUKI]

just go fuck his cousin

[jamg]

your best friend smashing her > some random guy

[Corbic]

Don't you get it? By getting drunk with his cousin and mutually agreeing to the smash, his friend has to either defend her honor by marrying her before Spring or he will have to kill his roommate.
Then who will pay the other half of the rent?

Clearly it's that whores fault for seducing his friend. No man of God would defile their bodies in such away if it was not for her forcing her self upon him.

We must gather the village and stone the wench.

http://dianiko.files.wordpress.com/2010/05/the_stoning_of_soraya_m.png?w=584

[enderr]

This is not the 19th century where prior to the mandatory annual deed one must compose a declaration for preparation to fornicate to be hastened to all whom it may concern.

this, also stop acting like a bitch and get some friends. your 240 is not your friend, its a mechanical hunk of metal

[ryans523]

^^^ agreed

[Corbic]

OP reminds me of this guy -

HcXNPI-IPPM

[jorge1190]

Sleep with his cousin

[Matador]

Was this situation not addressed in the roommate agreement?

[1 88 U]

Clearly it's that whores fault for seducing his friend. No man of God would defile their bodies in such away if it was not for her forcing her self upon him.

We must gather the village and stone the wench.

http://dianiko.files.wordpress.com/2010/05/the_stoning_of_soraya_m.png?w=584

Please say that picture is not real. :cry:

[S14TEENZ]

Pics of your cousin?

For better analyzing of the situation at hand.

[EhrikETFG]

So how big are her tits?

this
and also i only read like one post in this whole thread and heres my advice get the fuck over it holy crap

[S14TEENZ]

I figured it out. OP likes his cousin and is jelly of roommate

/thread

[Big Zee]

Clearly it's that whores fault for seducing his friend. No man of God would defile their bodies in such away if it was not for her forcing her self upon him.

We must gather the village and stone the wench.

http://dianiko.files.wordpress.com/2010/05/the_stoning_of_soraya_m.png?w=584

I'm all for a quick joke but I hope that pic isnt real either haha.

[Corbic]

I'm all for a quick joke but I hope that pic isnt real either haha.

Movie based on a true story about some Iranian girl that got stoned a few years ago. Google image will find real pictures.

[fliprayzin240sx]

Sounds like you're butt-hurt over them not telling you straight up and you finding out the hard way. Has it occurred to you that they didn't tell you because they figured you'd freak the fuck out. The way I see it, its 2 consenting adults. As long as your roomate aint fucking around with other chicks while he's seeing your cousin, its really none has nothing to do with you so leave it the fuck alone.

[Josh400]

Have you talk to your best friend yet?? You know were dying to know what you said and he said lol

[1 88 U]

Movie based on a true story about some Iranian girl that got stoned a few years ago. Google image will find real pictures.

Just saw the clip from the movie. Amazing how sick some cultures devolve into. On a serious note the sexist views of the TS on a societal scale is what leads to condeming women for their sexuality. Its her body dude, get over yourself.

[Phlip]

Sounds like you're butt-hurt over them not telling you straight up and you finding out the hard way. Has it occurred to you that they didn't tell you because they figured you'd freak the fuck out. The way I see it, its 2 consenting adults. As long as your roomate aint fucking around with other chicks while he's seeing your cousin, its really none has nothing to do with you so leave it the fuck alone.

I tend to see it more as the fact that they didn't owe him shit in the first place, and it was REALLY pretentious of him to go stomping about as if they did. If the OP thinks that "honor and respect" are necessary for someone to play hide-the-sausage with his cousin, then I have some VERY bad news for him as it relates to Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny and the Tooth Fairy.

[SharkMan]

I tend to see it more as the fact that they didn't owe him shit in the first place, and it was REALLY pretentious of him to go stomping about as if they did. If the OP thinks that "honor and respect" are necessary for someone to play hide-the-sausage with his cousin, then I have some VERY bad news for him as it relates to Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny and the Tooth Fairy.

LoL, I'm surprised this isn't locked already. I don't think the op even cares about the thread anymore. Or else I'd give my :2c:

[Akiros]

Op is a *snip!

Kinda funny that this is one of the most active threads on Zilvia though..

[Bambi]

OP reminds me of this guy -

HcXNPI-IPPM

I just watched the whole thing.



What the fuck. :naw:

[TougeLove]

yea why is this still going? can we let it die?

[1 88 U]

Yolandi Visser is fucking hot. Die Antwoord is the shit. The funny thing is Ninja is really her baby daddy not older brother.

[pacotaco345]

Posting because I'm sitting bored in my criminal justice class... Sounds to me like OP needs to get some tail