Off Topic: Help with girl...

[spin]

update - SWEET.  Thanks everybody.  I'll just chill out and take it slow then.  I always do anyway because I'm shy.  Just thought maybe I'd get some advice on it from new people this time.  Thanks again.

You're all very nice <img src="http://www.zilvia.net/f/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'>


(Edited by spin at 7:52 am on Oct. 11, 2001)

[DragonReborn214]

Just go up to her and ask her if she wants to review some notes together at a coffee house. Straight out. Don't be p*ssy about it. It will work if you just bust it.

[Archangel]

I say just strike up a conversation with her about class, and ask her out for some coffee or food or something like you said. &nbsp;If she says yes, just kinda work that boyfriend question into the conversation over coffee (shouldn't be too hard).
Or next time someone you know is having a party, tell her to come, and see if she shows up with her boyfriend, or just a girlfriend (although i guess it could be HER girlfriend...). &nbsp;Anyway, just suggest coffee or a party or something and see how she reacts.

[Archangel]

Yeah, don't wuss out ! You WILL regret it if you do.
(Trust me...)

[vancouvers14]

ask her out for coffee. &nbsp;see if she goes for it. &nbsp;asking anout a boyfriend at a coffee place is way more appropriate than in class.

[dave2u]

well i`m not a girl but if i put a dress on and smear some thick red lipstick on i kinda look like one. But here`s my advice which is about what the other fellas said. Try and click with her in class. The odd friendly comment. Bit of a giggle. If you think you 2 have clicked a bit then ask does she want to study whatever after school ,library,coffee , somewhere more intimate. Then once again when the mood is a bit humorous and friendly come out with &quot;so whats your boyfriend got to say about that&quot; and there`s your answer. The balls in her court to tell you how you`ve done so far. Usualy at that point the girl would pretend she had a boyfriend , go to the toilet and get out of the window and leave me hanging like a slapped a*se. But hey i`m sure you`ll have much more luck with it. <img src="http://www.zilvia.net/f/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/wink.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=';)'>

[96SEChick]

You guys all have good ideas. &nbsp;I wouldn't ask her out in class either. &nbsp;But you might want to wait a bit longer before asking if she has a boyfriend. &nbsp;You've only conversed with her for a week, and it may scare her if you ask too personal of a question so soon. &nbsp;You should chat with her in class a bit more. &nbsp;She may be a freak (hopefully not, but ya wanna make sure). &nbsp;And you surely don't want to scare her off if she's a really good catch (and hopefully she is). &nbsp;Become friends, talk with her when class is over and walk with her when you leave the classroom. &nbsp;But most importantly, be her friend--you'll be more comfortable with each other.

Good luck :biggrin:

Just become friends with her, like you would any girl. &nbsp;You'll very soon find out if she has one. &nbsp;If she ends up being your girlfriend by some chance in the future, that's great cause the best girlfriends are bestfriends.

[bing]

no no no, u guys have it all wrong,

just grab her a$$, kiss her cheek and say,

&quot;where we goin???&quot;

never fails,

[240sxnewbie]

nah..just &nbsp;judge how she is..if she's the shy quiet type, then ask her smoothly..but if she's outgoing then just go all out and ask her..but yeah..be friends with her first, gain her trust..but don't gain too much of her trust and be on that &quot;i just want to be friends&quot; side..

[S13Grl]

Hey, Spin, post the question again!!!

[groundzero]

Yeah can you re-post the question I might have some answers for you.

[spin]

ah hah!! nail on the head. being the nice buddy buddy type has worked before. but more often than not, i see nice guys who always end up on the friendship tip. which is cool, but when you are attracted to someone, sometimes you have to just go for it. may work, may not. but i digress... like i said, i'm going to take lauren's advice and just chill out. i'm in no hurry.
man, this is so ridiculous sharing with y'all like this <img src="http://www.zilvia.net/f/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'> but again, big thanks for the input.
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reader's digest version of question: guy meets gal, seems to be mutual interest, guy wants to know gal's relationship status without asking a blatant question.

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(Edited by spin at 10:53 am on Oct. 11, 2001)

[bing]

i still say grab her a$$,

it works wonders..........

[S13Grl]

I second Lauren's opinion. <img src="http://www.zilvia.net/f/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'>

[DragonReborn214]

Shes prob not going to go out with you to have coffee if she has a boyfriend... so that should be answer enough.

[dannhctc]

Just be yourself bro. &nbsp;Try being anything else; and they can smell it on ya! &nbsp;<img src="http://www.zilvia.net/f/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/wink.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=';)'> &nbsp;J/K

[vancouvers14]

thats not true. &nbsp;this girl who i hung out with in university, we'd go for lunch, coffee, study, etc all the time. &nbsp;She came to my house and vice versa. &nbsp;The only reason i found out she had a boyfriend was cause i overheard her talking with another girl in class.

[vancouvers14]

ask her out after class, not during.

[DragonReborn214]

Re he heeeeeeeealy... When I was single and dating, if I asked a girl to study, they knew what I wanted to study. Know what Im sayin??? Hahaha <img src="http://www.zilvia.net/f/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/wink.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=';)'>

[spin]

yes. &nbsp;yes i do.


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Re he heeeeeeeealy... When I was single and dating, if I asked a girl to study, they knew what I wanted to study. Know what Im sayin??? Hahaha <img src="http://www.zilvia.net/f/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/wink.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=';)'></td></tr></table><span id='postcolor'>

[Chokudori]

Just ask her... &quot;so, how was the mid-term&quot;

[misnomer]

Hehe, like everybody's been saying, be a friend first. Going from friend to boyfriend is easier (and much much less painful) than &quot;Hey baby, wanna bob on my knob?&quot; Don't just be there to talk, do things, go places. I just talk, and I'm a very good just friend <img src="http://www.zilvia.net/f/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/tounge.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':p'>

[anthony240]

get the digits, talk for a couple weeks, get comfortable with each other, THEN ask her out.

I'm in the process with this one girl, I've had her number for TWO MONTHS, and we just talk. I'm too busy now, and so is she, so I'll wait till things calm down. No hurry.

[my240likenoother]

make shure to complament them &nbsp;not too much tho