silpena

yeah i was doing ok being apart and when i told we cant be friends she got upset saying i was being unfair and theres nothing wrong with it. Yeah i think after time i can talk to her even though i want to still but it only be talking about what happened between us. she says shes afraid of seeing me in public becuase she's afraid of getting back together. Our relationship wasn't bad imo. It was something that came out of nowhere.

I asked her if she was unhappy about something why didnt she talk to me about it instead of letting it progress even worse. She had no real answer and it makes me mad. I'm more pissed at her but i tell her the longer she waits the harder it will be for me to get back together. For now, i'm trying to get a job and move out to a new city, try some new hobbies(think the piano lol) and see what happens. I made her my life too much so my self-esteem is real low. I used to have a really high self esteem before i met her and had alot of things going but i put all my effort in making it worked that i kinda need to start over. I'm not a bad looking guy. I was told by a girl the other day i was too cute to be taken and i work out alot so i guess women like a hard body lol. IDK its kinda depressing becuase i dont have much to do right now so i think about it too much.

i'm not taking the advice of nailing her friends or go out and nail a bunch if sluts. That aint me and i aint trying to hurt her with revenge. Not my style and i'm too much of a nice guy. My (girl) friend says she'll come back. Just ignore her and make it look like your ok and she'll come running back. If true, i aint waiting....


depending on how i'm feeling i might talk to her at the end of the month and if no good then wait till her b day or something which in 4 months. Shes gonna be home for the winter and shes going on a family boat trip for week so she'll be home for at least 2 weeks. This is gonna be weird becuase her house(where she grew up and i met her before she moved for college) is the next city over about 6 min and i have to watch my back. Hoping not to see her and her grand parents live down the street from me so i also have to avoid the awkwardness. If i see her i'm just run away and pretend i never saw her.


i dont get it i was the perfect boyfriend to her. HEr friends were jealous of her. because i am nice, cute, nice body, thought full and everything. Every other girl thinks she fucking crazy and know what her problem is.

ALTRNTV

If I were you, I wouldn't get back with her. You're only 21. Go have fun and don't worry about
relationships, trust me. Enjoy your freedom because you will never get it back later on. Young
people nowadays put too much effort and thought into relationships, when they should be having
fun being young and carefree.

silpena

yeah everyone older than me tells me to live it up. I wouldnt mind being with her. Dont get me wrong, at times i did get scared of being with her and only her but in the end i was cool with it. I guess we'll see what happens. I told her the time is running and she thinks she made a mistake she needs to talk to me about it. I aint taking her back that easy if it happen. There would be alot of changes. i dont know i probably start off slow if we got back together.. nothing too serious. if the spark is there then its there and if not then well i guess it wasnt meant to be.

i just hope she doesnt pop back into my life when i should be alone. IT keeps restarting the whole process. The only thing i know is alcohol is not the answer and i need to make sure i dont become dependent. for 4 years i never drank untill now....

DataXUnknown

^Cigs aren't the answer either. After my breakup of 2 years, I'm fuckin' dieing here smokin cigs when I have asthma and I (was) a cross country runner, really wanted to keep going but now it seems like I can't. I drink any chance I get too.

Her reason for not wanting to be with me is that we are still young and she wants to put herself out there and party and have fun while going to college. All I see is a huge change from a cute innocent korean girl to a social, looking for parties and clubbing all the time, popping pills and smokin' cigs all the time, goin' to raves, just turning down the opposite direction that she was headed. Makes me sad to see such a great girl change like that. I mean yeah I understand she wants to have fun, but drugs and the wrong crowd of people can really mess things up.

Plus, I think its very unattractive when a girl smokes.

ALTRNTV

Tell me about it. You see this hot girl. You're drooling over her, then she reaches into her bag
and grabs a cig. Fuck.

1989rps13

I agree with you wes. Theres nothing worst than seeing a girl who likes going to parties to drink and smoke and act retarded and now all the dudes know shes easy. Its hard to meet a girl that will stay true though so many drugs/ alcohol and raves affect everybody.

anyways as for me i decided to just recooperate i broke up with my girl of 4 years so i need the time for myself PLUS ever since i havent been with her i enjoy this

- not having to call her
- not having to text her
- not having to take her out to eat or plan something to do
- more time to spend with my family and friends and do the stuff that i like to do like skate ( i pretty much quit skating cause we went out to much and i couldnt skate anymore) so now im planning to get back into it or maybe its too late now and rather work

anyways when your not with a girl its a win win situation more money to help out the loved ones and yourself

+ you can contact any girls and hang out wtih them individually
your freee to see diff. girls and it just feels pretty good not having to call them/ text since thier not your gf

yup this thread made me realize how much i have been wanting to be single ever since i had to waste a nickle on that biatch

lolatclint

ok so i was taking off my gf's pants and then i found out she had a penis!!!!! what do i do?

Future240

Good for you, just remember that while bachelorism is good eventually its best to settle down. Of course that happens when you are emotionally, mentally and physically able to handle it, and of course meet a girl that you are compatible enough with (yea I dont believe in the "right" girl)

I will assume you are joking, but just in case you are not, then if you are into trannies then have fun, if not seek elsewhere for vagina, seek hookup thread

silpena

i have a cousin who went through the same thing. Smoked alot and whenever he wasnt he'd freak out. I kinda go the same thing with my ex. I think she wants to go party all the time and drink. Actually thats how everything went bad, she hanged out with the wrong crowd and changed everything.

so far i haven't called her so i guess good job for me?? just sucks that i have to watch where i go becuase she might there. It kinda lame when i cant go to church becuase i think she might be there with her family that weekend. I should be letting her get in the way in going to church. I dont go often so whenever i get the chance i want to go. It kinda keeps me grounded and level headed(hence why i never made alot of mistakes in our relationship).

WERDdabuilder

what are you talking about? those are the best kind of girls. girls like this, know how to have fun.

i got no standards/morals ha.

Future240

I know it hurts right now, but eventually you wont worry about whether or not she will be there. I once had a bad break up and was worried cuz me and the girl worked at the same place. But she got fired so it was cool.

You should try your best to not worry about whether or not she is there. Being in the same place with her and learning not to feel so much is something that you may just have to face.

Try not to let it get to you, time will help, and yes good job for not calling

S13_Nightkid

my ex girl used to do that shit. wantin me to text every 5mins. Then stay up on the phone until SHE got tired. ah freedom.

ALTRNTV

I hate talking on the phone. Either text me or AIM me on my phone. With text, you get
straight to the point. All the girls I talk to know that so they cooperate. Also, you can talk
to other people also when people just text you.

silpena

on a plus note i have more money for myself since i wasted so much money driving 2 1/2 hours back forward every week.. sometimes 2 times and she only visited like what 1 time a month.... fuck i wasted so much of my money. PLus, i get to now work where i want since i dont have to worry about work getting in the way with her.

ALTRNTV

Where do you live and where does she? 2.5 hours? That isn't really worth it since you're
so young.

Future240

Damn, that is pure selfish. Relationships with girls like that are tough. Takes alots but gives a little.

I agree, not every weekend, not unless she was coming to see you to. I already told my female once we grad college expect to see me twice a month, maybe less

silpena

i live in a little town about 50 min north of sac. She goes to ucdavis. her actual home is about 5 min north of me so she visits home.

that kinda made me frustrated so i kinda bitched at her alot since she never really came. She was very selfious even though she will never admit it.


the drive 1.2 hours there and about the same back. At first it was kinda gay but soon enough it became like a regualr and i didn't seem like a long drive. I seriously dont mind the drive, i'm pretty cool and understanding. Just got retarded that she cant make one trip. Put alot of my miles on my car too( i could knock off like 18,000 of my OD if i wasnt with her.... the first year i under stood since she live in a dorm and your not allowed to have a vehicle and the second year she wrecked her truck.... its kinda my fault since she was coming to see me where she could have went back home and avoided(long story) but mostly her fault since she is a terrible driver.

I did alot for her and got nothing back. I wasted alot of my time and lost alot of opportunities becuase of her while she gained alot and had her piece of the cake. Now i have to start off where i left off 2 years ago. Got to get a job, get a new hobbies, start talking to my friends, start working on my car again( i havnt touched it in 2 years) due to being broke becuase of her. I also made about 5G's on a rx7 part out that i bought for 300.00 off my teacher. Guess where it went? all living with her in the summer in davis. The town sucks and the people suck( well not everyone) but mostly are stuck up just like her. None of my friends ever liked her because she gave off this bitchy "i'm better than you" additude. She swears she never did but idk i was bliind at the moment. She was a tough girl to deal with. Was very draining....the gay thing is she promised everything would work out when she moved and i wa the one who had doubts and wanted to call it quits. I'm a fool but i gotta learn from it. I'm not gonna moan about he and be bitter like she was towards me in the beginning of our relationship( she was cheated on previously) i think thats why she allways put her self and her needs before me.

i used to be a real cool, happy dude. Made everyones day better and was very ambitious and confident. Lost it all with her. Tommarow i'm gonna go shopping with a friend to kinda find my style again ha ha ha.

ALTRNTV

See what relationships do to you when you're young? Take that as a lesson.

Come down to SoCal for New Years and go to Together As One. You'll have a blast. lmao

silpena

lmao yeah i bet i would. I would want to nyc just becuase it be bad ass. I probably spend it with the people i can trust and rely on at all times... my big ass family.

Future240

I have to disagree with that. I am the same age as silpena is and I have been in a CELIBATE relationship for nearly a year and a half and we are going strong.

It is not your age that determines whether a relationship fails or succeeds. It is your maturity level, your willingness to compromise and your compatibility with the person you are with.

I've been told all my life by parents, teachers, aunts, etc. that I am overly mature for my age. Which is why I can give advise on the same level as you (which I hope you dont mind me doing since this is your thread)

Azian

wow i just read this whole thread lol

ALTRNTV

I agree about the maturity level, but how many young people do you know have enough
experience to truly have a good relationship? Most of them have no clue on what to do.
In my opinion, I don't think people should take relationships so seriously when they're young.
Relationships are fine, but don't put too much into them, because 9 out of 10 times, it'll end
and you'll find out quickly he/she wasn't the one for you.

SC_S13

Dude, you can try to fight how you feel all you want, but in the end, it keeps coming back.

fuck dude, i miss my ex.

ya ya, shut up haters lol

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stiizy

I know how that feels but what you gotta do is stay occupied and you'll see how time goes by...

Going out during the day coming home when it's time to sleep passes the time very quickly..

Drinking never helps as it depresses you more..

No need to care if others will hate cause you miss your ex..

But think of this, if she was meant for you she wouldn't be an ex now would she..

You can never move forward , if you keep looking backwards...

^ those words helped me in a devastating break up years back and i never felt better afterwards..

Future240

I agree its rare, but I wouldn't say dont take it less serious, I would say tread with more caution.

ZX88

true man. i thought i was finnally getting over my ex and i ended up seeing her at a party and its back to day one. get some new hobbies.

TehMaverick

there's going to be a long ass post in like 2 hours about relationships(my story of them)
i just don't have the energy to type it right now.

99maxgtr

hahah that sounds just like me a few months ago. must have spent easily 500 in a month for gas and tolls alone. not to forget dinners and things here and there. i think i dropped close to 4 g's in 6 months.

now i learned and im enjoying single life. i know the next girl i get i won't be so damn stupid with my money and won't wine and dine her beyond my means.

fuck bitches get money~ seriously was not worth it and when i think about it, was not necessary at all....

oh for any of you guys that went through a real devastating break up as i did...i always say that everything happens for a reason, just sometimes you don't know what that reason is until later on.

truth.

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TehMaverick

To start off, I'm 18, overweight, a virgin(never had sex, I've done other things though)

There's three girls: Whitney, Cari, and Beth.

Whitney: Obsessed with me, keeps coming back, broke her heart numerous times, she keeps thinking that I changed, but within a couple days I decide I don't want to be with her, I treat her like shit, I don't know why, it's only her. Don't really ever want to go out with her and don't even want to have sex with her, she's not that good looking.

Cari: I fell in love with her this summer, she said she wanted me to play hard to get and then she'd say yes, I thought that meant be a dick to her, but I couldn't be a dick to her so I didn't play hard to get so I didn't get with her, she's at college now, I'm still in love with her, but she goes out with some other guy now and I refuse to give up on her. She's perfect in my eyes and I couldn't see being with someone else over her.

Beth: Known her since sophomore year in high school, I'm now a freshman in college, we were more of acquaintances during the high school years, I'd like more now that we're hanging out some now but I'm not sure what she wants.

I'm not one to make first moves unless I hang out with girls a couple times and feel that they like me.
Right now it looks like Mona(my 240) is the only gal for me.

Oh yeah, I'm jobless and I can't stop thinking about girls.
I had no problem NOT thinking about it while working.

99maxgtr

lmao being korean myself i will say this is true. it's funny i don't even look for korean girls any more. most of them not all, are way to materialistic, too dramatic(from watching too many korean dramas) and more importantly(for me) just not interesting (intellectually).

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