Here maybe this can help you a bit though..This will also help me somewhat. You'll need two 5 pin 30 amp relays. One for each side. The pin numbers should be listed on the top of the relay. See the photo below, but don't follow the wiring on that photo since you're doing headlights.
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Pin 30 goes to the low beam projector
Pin 85 goes to the
high beam power
Pin 87a goes to the
low beam power
Pin 87 goes to the
high beam power
Pin 86 to ground
Relays
http://www.amazon.com/Relay-Harness-...ds=30amp+relay