need some advice from the girls and the guys

[dave240sx]

I was dating this girl for about 2.5 months and I really liked her and we broke up...but I'm not real sure why. Anyway I went to the floral shop and ordered her some roses to be delivered to her work on v-day.

I'm trying to decide if I should call and cancel the flowers because I just found out that she's been talking to this guy that she met on the internet for the past week. She said it's not really serious, and her search is not over.

We still talk quite a bit, and I wanted to try and get back together. I sent her the flowers because she was bummed out because she had to work all day. I thought it would be sweet to send her flowers to brighten up her valentines day. But I didn't know she was talking to anybody at the time.

so I need some advice on if I should go ahead and send the roses or call and cancel them...I know you all can't tell me since you don't know either of us, but a little incentive one way or the other would be nice please.

Thanks,
David

[NZO]

I say just send em. Cant hurt! And someone she met on the internet is no threat to you, at least not at this point.

[Kid Zelda]

Just send them, why not ! !

Like Mr. NZO said "And someone she met on the internet is no threat to you, at least not at this point" .................................................. .................................................. ...............
UNLESS IT'S MARK WEST !! ! :eek: :eek: OHHHHHHHhhhHHH :D

[SilviaDriver]

Originally posted by Kid Zelda
Like Mr. NZO said "And someone she met on the internet is no threat to you, at least not at this point" .................................................. .................................................. ...............
UNLESS IT'S MARK WEST !! ! :eek: :eek: OHHHHHHHhhhHHH :D


BwHAHAHHAHAHAH

i say..dont send em. juss send one.

[240meowth]

now if it was me, i'd hand make a card and 1 rose and hand it to her i person. as for the card, i'd make it look as retarded and elementry as possible just to be cute, bwa ha ha, that way you save money as well:D :D

[Kid Zelda]

Originally posted by SilviaDriver
BwHAHAHHAHAHAH

i say..dont send em. juss send one.

You freaking cheapskate :p j/k

[Kid Zelda]

Originally posted by 240meowth
that way you save money as well:D :D
You freaking cheapskate ....... (are u waiting for the j/k ? ) ..................

[240meowth]

Originally posted by SilviaDriver
BwHAHAHHAHAHAH

i say..dont send em. juss send one.

great minds think alike, and you beat me to it, bwaaa!!! :mad:

[SilviaDriver]

Originally posted by 240meowth
great minds think alike, and you beat me to it, bwaaa!!! :mad:

HAHAHHAHAHA...we are both Asian. we are raised to think alike! you know ur mom taught u to save money! hahha dont lie. haha. gotta save money for parts man!!!

Originally posted by 240meowth
i'd make it look as retarded and elementry as possible just to be cute


HOLY **** hahahahahahhahahaha!!!! thats ****en hilarious!! hahahah that broke me up man

speaking of that..hey Dave240sx send her this via email!

http://www.imaginationatwork.com/Imagine?_nolivecache&aDrawingID=20030212_005244603_141034047&_lscid=73636210

i made that and sent it to a girl and she ****en digs it!! hahaha..heres a convo with a friend to prove it!..i dont like her tho

Friend: omg
Friend: dats so ****en kwute
Friend: wher you get dat from???
Me: i made it
Friend: really??
Friend: aww...dats so kwute
Me: well..i use the program to make it
Me: HAHAHA
Friend: hahahaa
Friend: buht...its kOo thO
Friend: so....whos yer valentine?
Me: nobody
Me: im walkin alone
Friend: awww
Friend: dats so kwute tho
Me: i asked Meena, but then shes already with somebody [doh]
Friend: omg...a gerl will so melt if you give dis to someone you like

yes yes..see coming from a girl too! send it right away! i made that one..but im sure u can think of one yourself..juss like Meowth said..make it look hella kiddy and they will dig it! hahahha

[live2drift2live]

I say if you still have feelings man go for it. Who cares about that one guy off the internet. He could be some old wrinkly white fat ass gas janitor guy. Go for it. About the gift I second the notion that dont go overboard with a dozen roses because one long stem rose can speak 1000 words. But I say cancel the shipment, get a long stem rose, and a card and take them to her in person, if you still have feelings for her. Last year I skipped school for a period and went to my gf's high school and gave her a dozen roses and a card during lunch in front of all her friends and it was great, even though I got caught later, but I smooth talked my administrator and he said he couldnt believe I had the balls to do that. Just go for it whats the worst that can happen. The biggest risk of all is not taking the risk.
JBM

[asiangirL]

Originally posted by live2drift2live
I say if you still have feelings man go for it. Who cares about that one guy off the internet. He could be some old wrinkly white fat ass gas janitor guy. Go for it. About the gift I second the notion that dont go overboard with a dozen roses because one long stem rose can speak 1000 words. But I say cancel the shipment, get a long stem rose, and a card and take them to her in person, if you still have feelings for her. Last year I skipped school for a period and went to my gf's high school and gave her a dozen roses and a card during lunch in front of all her friends and it was great, even though I got caught later, but I smooth talked my administrator and he said he couldnt believe I had the balls to do that. Just go for it whats the worst that can happen. The biggest risk of all is not taking the risk.
JBM

:) i agree. sending her a dozen roses might scare a girl off, especially if the relationship is completely plutonic right now. instead, HAND her one rose along with a nice card telling her how you feel and wishing her a nice day, not just a lame "Happy Valentine's Day." this will let her know that she's special on that day and not just because it's Valentine's Day. notice i said HAND and not send. delivering the rose to her yourself will make it more personal and shows you care. if all goes as planned, save the dozen roses for when you guys go on your "1st" date. anyway...goodluck!

ooh and bout that internet guy...the best he can do is to send her a dozen online "roses." nothing to worry bout there :p :p

[whateverjames]

I say don't send any flowers or any cards. Send her one of those e-greetings. Much cheaper. :D :D :D
Nah, seriously, I wouldn't send that girl anything if she broke up with you for no reason. Waste of time in my opinion. Don't listen to me though, I've been done wrong too many times.

[madwilly240]

I say that if you feel like you two had something worth saving, then try to save it. I know if my girlfriend pulled some **** like that, I would have done anything to save it, and we've been together for a year and a half now. Definatly get roses, but do it in person. It will be a much bigger surprise to her if she sees you walking into her work with flowers, rather than the delivery guy.

[Annoying Eric]

If you wanna get a girl (back).. this what you do....

Buy a dozen roses, take one rose out and put a fake (but very real looking) rose in its place, if it still looks outta place try to hide it a bit, well on the card write " I will love you till the last rose dies" depending on the person she might think nothing of it or get mad. then a week later all the roses will be dead except for that one.. after that you got it made.......


Eric

[S13Grl]

Hey so can you all guess how West and I met??? :p Hee heeee beware the internet guys.

[dave2u]

(dave the old creeky agony aunt shuffles slowly over to the rocking chair by the fire with her coco to give her advice. Eases her way slowly back into the rocking chair and lets a slow breath slip from her lips , gently kicks off her slippers and slowly rests her aching bones down onto the chair and eases back)
"it all depends on why you split up in the first place mateyboy"
(but the rocking chair freeks out and tips aunt dave into the open fireplace)
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrgh !
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrghh !
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrgh !
(she screams Like Homer Simpson as she runs around the room on fire like Carl Lewis on coke)

"yes aaargghh yes aaaaaaooooowww wyhy did u break up my son aaaaaaaaooww*sob* ?

(the door slams as a singed aunt dave flees to put herself out in the bath)

[live2drift2live]

Ohh and get White Roses instead of Red. Girls like them because they are friends with benefits. Yeah me and my ex had dated for 13 months, and it got serious. But out of the blue something happened, and we broke up mutal. But now she wants me back so I dont know if Ill go that route. She says just friends with benefits :) but it is going to back the old way. Tomorrow I am getting up at like 6am and going to her school and suprising her and we are going to dinner. Its I want more and she wants more type of thing. But also for a bonus, Girls expect roses, get something else, and also grab some Green M&Ms :) :):):D . But whatever goes and happy V D to all the girlies on the board.
JBM

[96SEChick]

I say cancel the dozen red roses and get 6 red and 6 white--white roses mean friendship and red means true love. You don't seem to be at the 100% true love stage, so all red may seem too serious--if she knows what all the rose colors mean (which she probably does--she's a girl). You can either surprise her and have them delivered to her w/ a somewhat anonymous note--something she can guess it's you but it's creative and makes her snicker and realize she should be with you. If you don't have them delivered, try to write a little poem for her and take the roses to her and give her the note as well. Act as if the "internet guy" doesn't even exist.

Good luck & happy Valentine's Day to all you guys!! :p

BTW--please don't abbreviate Valentine's Day w/ V D--that's not a good thing to get on Valentine's Day :(

[SimpleS14]

Keep it simple and send just one.


S13Grl your sig is funny :D

[adey]

my freaking retarded porsche 996 convertible driving friend just sent (with my help) 143 (yes, one hundred and forty three) roses to some chick he'd been dating and then broke up with (she broke it off) ... All his friends think she's a bitch and "not right for him", but he's insistent. Her reply to the 143 surprise roses (I [1] love [4] you [3]) was "Oh, you didn't need to..." and that was about it. :o

Now that's a morale (and emotion) breaker if I ever saw one! :rolleyes:

[Natty]

Originally posted by adey
my freaking retarded porsche 996 convertible driving friend just sent (with my help) 143 (yes, one hundred and forty three) roses to some chick he'd been dating and then broke up with (she broke it off) ... All his friends think she's a bitch and "not right for him", but he's insistent. Her reply to the 143 surprise roses (I [1] love [4] you [3]) was "Oh, you didn't need to..." and that was about it. :o

Now that's a morale (and emotion) breaker if I ever saw one! :rolleyes:
Ouch! Girls are evil.
Jeff

[sayuki]

i say go for it. send 'em. half red half white is good.

You're gonna make her day either way - she'll either be totally happy to have gotten flowers from you, or it'll make her totally happy to have something to throw around or tear apart. hehe - yeah girls are evil ;)

Erika

[96SEChick]

Originally posted by adey
my freaking retarded porsche 996 convertible driving friend just sent (with my help) 143 (yes, one hundred and forty three) roses to some chick he'd been dating and then broke up with (she broke it off) ... All his friends think she's a bitch and "not right for him", but he's insistent. Her reply to the 143 surprise roses (I [1] love [4] you [3]) was "Oh, you didn't need to..." and that was about it. :o

Now that's a morale (and emotion) breaker if I ever saw one! :rolleyes:

OMG What a biznatch!! Even though he was somewhat foolish in sending those to an EX, she still shouldn't have reacted that way.

[dave240sx]

Well here's an update.

I sent her 6 red roses with some other stuff like I said in the first post. I actually forgot I posted this here so I never looked at it. You all have some good Ideas! Anyway, she was real happy to get them. She called me and we talked for a little while.

I don't know whats going to happen between us. We said that we were going to do something after she got off. Even though it was late. Well she didn't call me when she got off. I called her about 11:00 to find out what happened and she said she was sorry, and she was going to call me when she got home(She went to her friends house.) I'm sure that was a spur of the moment thought to make it seem like she didn't forget.

Anyway. I don't know why I want her back. She's inconsiderate, irritatates me, makes me mad sometimes, but I'm still stuck on her. I don't now why. She's beautiful, smart(sometimes), funny, I can talk to her about almost anything. I could go on for a while but I'll spare you all. We broke up as a mutual thing because it didn't seem like anything was there, but now I miss her.

anyway, thanks for listiening. I don't really have anybody to talk to about this stuff since I moved, so I figured I'd vent to you all.

thanks,
-Dave-

[whateverjames]

She's very inconsiderate. Stood you up..... on Feb. 14... I know what you're going through. I was stuck on a girl who was inconsiderate, irritated me and always tried to piiss me off whenever we weren't with eachother, but when we were together, things were great. If you didn't feel anything the first time around, I wouldn't worry about it or else it wouldn't have been mutual, in my opinon. You could be just friends, but it seems she doesn't even want to spend time with you even after you made a big effort to get things going again. There's something wrong with her way of thinking and she's probably a girl who's never satisfied with anything anyway.

[kandyflip445]

I had that happen one time. I was really into the girl and she did the same thing. Turns out like a year later when I was over her she wanted to get back together! Riiiiiiiight....for all I care she can do what Justin Timberlake said and "Cry Me A River":D

[dave240sx]

ha I just got through talking to her online tonight and got some stuff straight.
I asked her straight up what happened to us.(not in those words though I explained some other stuff)

anyway here are her answers and my replies.

1.I was hard to talk to and couldn't carry on a conversation for very long. I was going through a bunch of **** when we first started dating. Money problems, I had severe depression which made me not really want to talk to anybody. I was also scared that if I said something that I thought it would **** her off(did I mention she had a short temper, just like me) anyway I didn't want to **** her off because I didn't want to lose her.

2. She tried to bring up religion several times and could never get an view of where I come from. I explained to her tonight all about my views on religion. Which are I have to have phisical proof for some things like that and there just isn't all that much out there that I think is sutable for me, and that I'm a believer in evolution to an extent. Then I had to explain that I wasn't trying to change her view on religion I was simply stateing my oppinion. (she started to get irritated about the conversation)

Anyway I found out a lot of information that had been bugging me for the past 2 weeks. Like what happened and stuff. And I'm pretty sure that I just want to be friends. Cause we have a lot of differences. Although I'm still gonna be Jeolus as hell when she goes out with the guy off the internet tomarrow night! But that's life.

-Dave-

Thanks for listioning to my rambling anyway. And thanks for all the tips on the roses, even though I didn't get to use them. I definately like the one with the 6 red and 6 white 96SECHICK, maybe I'll send them to you for giving the idea. j/k

[revat619]

[i]for all I care she can do what Justin Timberlake said and "Cry Me A River":D [/B]

Seriously, that song has new meaning for me now. It explains the exact situation that just happened between me and my now ex-girlfriend.......that song kicks ass! It helped me feel better:)