Help...need to decide on what to do...

[91redMS13]

:smash: <<< That's what I look like right now. Calling all sensitive members!!! hahaha

It all began when I gave the keys of my s13 to my brother. He was just borrowing the car until he can get a better job & buy his own car. Now I have another car so no problem getting anywhere. The problem is now the car has a smashed front end. The damage is not extensive. A new front end, silvia or otherwise, radiator, rad support & fans would fix it. However, this is money me or my brother don't have for now. That's the situation right now.

On the other side of my brain. Me & my wife are thinking of having a kid. She's been itching to get one & I'm kinda stressed about it. I know having a kid would pretty much postpone anything car related when it's born. I'm also thinking of continuing my education & get out of my current job & actually get a career. We haven't even gotten our own house yet (still renting). AHHHHHH!!!!

Now before all of that happened. I planned on doing a straight track car out of the s13 (I know you guys have heard that one like a million times & how many actually did? I'm pretty sure you can count them with your fingers), however, I had a plan layed out from engine to suspension to tires. Just not complete.

Anyhoo, now I'm undecided and confused like hell. I am now thinking of a few things I can do with it:

1)Just give or sell the car to my brother & let him worry about what to do with the car, either get rid of it & buy another or fix it.
2)Just let it sit, don't fix it & use it as a parts car (the only problem with that is that the car is parked on my mom's driveway).
3)Sell it to somebody for dirt cheap & use the money to get another one.
4)Part it out completely & use the money to get another one.

That's as far as how to get rid of it & fix one. I'm also thinking of completely getting out of the car & just focus on studies & family & just get another car when it's ok again (like when I get a house & settled in with a kid or something)

I know I have to make a decision pretty soon too. So if you guys have any suggestion on what I should do I'd appreciate it. Sorry for the rant. I'm pretty sure most of you guys have had some sort of experience like or similar to this. Thanks for reading. :)

[Howard92884]

Well I would say just give it to your brother and let him deal with it. But if you are really wanting to fix just source another USDM front end, you can get bumpers and fenders for cheap at a junkyard or the forums, just have to look. Seriously do you really NEED the silvia front?

[s13gold]

just fix the car to make it a decent running daily.
ur in CA used oem parts should be cheap.

[240love]

idk..this is a tough one. I know that it must be frustrating that your wife wants to have a kid and your holding back because of the car which could lead to marrige problems i would think, and you dont want to loose your wife over a car do you? i say sell it to your brother and let him deal with it.

[azndoc]

Seriously I would suggest fixing the front with the most minimal cost which is just the stock pop up headlight which you can find usually for around $200 to $300 complete in good condition.

But then again focusing on your marriage is a big deal also. I'm not married, but I've seen what car money and time can affect a marriage. Better to have a happy wife at home than a nagging one I say.

On another note. Reading what you said about your wife really itching to have a kid, it really made me laugh and cringe at the same time. Weird how women just want to have kids like its a accessory or something. I just don't get it.

Oh well good luck either way.

[fliprayzin240sx]

Sell the car...family and your future comes first before anything else car related. Get your ass to school, dont let a car distract you. Then go knock your wife up.

[SW20Racer]

my son will be 4 months old on march 1st and i love him to death. but honest to god, having a child now was probably the biggest mis-step ive ever made in my 23 years on this planet. if you have ANY doubts about it, DONT DO IT.

as for the car, skip the kid for a few years and get it done and enjoy it @ least once because when the kid comes, you MIGHT get to spend some impossibly small incalculable fraction of the time/money you wish you could on it,

[steve_o1989]

Well to start with, not car related.. BUT, you said that you wanted to further you education and get a real career. I suggest that you work on this before having a kid. Get your self established first with a good job, maybe your first house, and then worry about a kid. Once a kid is on the way, time and money are going to get a whole lot tighter. You want to be able to comfortably provide for your family, when it comes..

Now on to the car.. I am assuming that it is worth fixing, so track down whatever you need for a new front end, do the repairs and then you're back to square one. Then if you decide that you want to sell, you are going to get more out of it and recover what was put in for repairs. If you need to sit on it for a while before you or your bro has the money then do that. Not going to hurt anything.

[blasting_speed]

First smack your brother upside the head. Then sell the car and forget it for a while. I think the best thing to do is make your wife happy so she can let you get another one. LOL

[illvialuver]

if you cant get yoru own house dont get a kid. they are no joke. and no matter how great the kid is youll probably regrete it. dopnt mean to sound liek a jerk , but ive seen it a million times.
you don't want to look back on haveing a kid as the one thing to keep you from your education, car and getting a house. your kid should not be a burden.

[91redMS13]

Hmm...thanks for all the replies guys. Interesting points you guys have made. The part about doing everything before the kit is actually one of the things we talked about. She said that she didn't want to be the reason for me not able to do everything I want to. I guess she's not really itching like we have to have it this year or something.

I'm actually thinking of just going to school, get a better job, then a house, then a kid, then after a few more years when the kid is not need as much attention anymore like around 4 or 5 years old, then a car. I think that's what I'm going to do, cuz by that time I figure I already have saved up some money for an actual project. What do you guys think about that?

[Howard92884]

Hmm...thanks for all the replies guys. Interesting points you guys have made. The part about doing everything before the kit is actually one of the things we talked about. She said that she didn't want to be the reason for me not able to do everything I want to. I guess she's not really itching like we have to have it this year or something.

I'm actually thinking of just going to school, get a better job, then a house, then a kid, then after a few more years when the kid is not need as much attention anymore like around 4 or 5 years old, then a car. I think that's what I'm going to do, cuz by that time I figure I already have saved up some money for an actual project. What do you guys think about that?
Find out what is most important to you and do it. Get your priorities in line and go from there. For me cars are one of the least important things, stability and family come first. The point is you know yourself and your situation best, do what is best for you and your family.

[Phlip]

Carry it in this order if you're actually looking to have kids:
School
Employment
Home Ownership
(somewhere mixed in DURING these should be your ability to do your car)
As far as fixing the car, that needs to fall into your brother's hands and/or come from his pockets. If he wants the car, then you can sell it to him, but if you REALLY want to build one up, it'd be far better to deal with the devil you know, so hold on to the car that you know instead of learning a new set of issues from another one.
Seriously, get to where you can raise kids in a stable environment before you let your wife rush you into having kids. If she can't see the value in that, then her priorities are messed up.

[91redMS13]

^^^
That's what I kinda figure out. I'm pretty sure my brother is going to dish out the money to have it fixed. It's just the hassle you know? I also work in the automotive business so I want what's cheap to help my brother out, but with all the stuff that's going on & finding the time to actually help him plus the distance between me & the car is killing me.

And to top it off he's like 18 so he doesn't really comprehend how big of a deal it was to smash my front end....

Oh well. I'm thinking of just giving it to him & let him deal with it while I get my life straigthened out. And when it's ok buy a project then. Thanks for all of your replies guys.