Ex-Girlfriend What Do I do - The End Result (kind of long)

[azanprophet]

So I read all your advice. Some was good, some was bad, some just made fun of me.

I appreciate everyone taking time out of their lives and schedules to give advice no matter what it was. So without further ado here's is what I did and the result that came of my actions...

Valentine's Day She went to work at 9 am. During the day I thought about all the actions that I could take and decided that the best thing to do was to tell her the truth. That I was tired of her staying at my place and tired of her treating me like her "boyfriend" and having her tell me that she wanted independence then asking for something two seconds later.

So when she came back at 6 pm I told her to change and we'd go out to dinner. At dinner I laid it all out on the table and asked her what she thought. I opted for the dinner conversation for the public arena to keep the drama and what-not to a minimum. She cried of course but kept it low key as I knew she would, but I explained to her that I wasn't going to do it anymore.

When we got back from dinner she packed some of her stuff and went to a mutual friends house to spend the night until she could get the rest of her stuff then I went out drinking with some friends.

Some of you were right...I guess she told her Abercrombie fag what happened and he came looking for me at the bars. When he found me he asked me why I did what I did and I explained the whole thing to him. I don't know if he was drunk or pissed at me or her or what but he took a swing at me and I proceeded to kick his ass in the middle of the bar. I know the owner so they threw him out, called the cops and let me stay in the back when the cops showed up. He is not pressing charges and even called to apologize telling me that he was not going to have anything to do with her anymore b/c she told him that she was living some place else.

Today she came for the rest of her stuff and asked if she could move back if a lot of things changed and I refused telling her that it would just end up being the same thing over and over again so she needed to still move out.

I know that was long but thanks everyone for listening and letting me vent...it's a lot cheaper than a shrink. Did I do the right thing? I think I did but for some reason now I feel bad b/c she has no one.

[trsilvias13]

took the high road.. so congrats. mission accomplish..
+1 for kicking that a&f ass.

[ALTRNTV]

Ok, so what really happened?

hahaha jk man.

Good job. I'm always down for kicking some A&F ass.

[infinitexsound]

well for one u did the right thing in just telling the honest truth, and its not your fault that dude came looking for u.... but its evident that he didnt chime on the sweet deal.... and for that hes an ass in my book... dont stress yourself over an episode like that... she just needed a nice swift kick in the buttocks... to go on her very own way... and u helped no matter what happend...

and remember A&F guys are myspace addicts... they have low self-esteem...

ur cool in my book

[reefer1114]

id do the same thing, good luck with your steez...peace

[EchoOfSilence]

I applaud you. That was the honorable way to do it, man. You are the better person.

[!Zar!]

Leave her out. If you get back with her. She'll continue to get other boyfriends and what not. While you want to get someone else but won't for fear of cheating on her. Live your life. But don't be a pussy and let her back because she isn't getting back with you.

[AllenRPS13]

i will absolutely do the same thing like u!
+1 for kicking that a&f ass!!!

[woodchuck]

I think I did but for some reason now I feel bad b/c she has no one.

Dood - you did the right thing. as for feeling bad, she made her choice and thats her consequence. just remeber how she mistreated you the next time you feel bad. you'll get angry and start to hate her - this will help you cope with the situation cause you'll hate her so much that you'll want to cut her out your life completely. kinda joking/serious about that too.

[Phlip]

For those unaware of the initial story, read here:
http://www.zilvia.net/f/showthread.php?t=101455

... and to the starter of this thread, you did the right thing, while having done it a little late. The time to have kicked her out was when you broke up, derious business.

[trsilvias13]

now where is the pics? hahha

[Andrew Bohan]

i can't wait for my turn to kick some a&f ass. i spent all this engergy learning to fight but never get the chance. haha

[theicecreamdan]

hey, you promised pics.

[2iv0 sx]

and remember A&F guys are myspace addicts... they have low self-esteem...

ur cool in my book

Word. You did the right thing man, took guts for you to do that like a real man should.


Dont sweat it "bitches come n go" . . .

[OdessaS13]

i can't wait for my turn to kick some a&f ass. i spent all this engergy learning to fight but never get the chance. haha
just wait outside a A&F store and when some preppy looking prick comes out punch him in the face and proceed to point and laugh like so
http://imagecache2.allposters.com/images/pic/ATA/24818BP~The-Simpsons-Nelson-Haha-Posters.jpg
To the thread starter,on a serious note good shit for taken care of your stuff, now one less thing for you to stress over.

[ManoNegra]

You handled the situation with class. Can't believe she sent a dude to fight you and still wanted to stay with you. Good riddance.

[seezurh]

what did u guys eat for dinner?

[aznpoopy]

good job. don't feel bad.

"you reap what you sow"

she got hers.

[WERDdabuilder]

pics of the ex?

[NemeGuero]

The best thing to do is what's best for you. At the end of the day, no one will think for you.

You made the right choice, she made the poor choices. Which now leaves her alone.

You feel guilty because you have a heart, and because you're a nice guy. She took advantage of that.

Realize how much strength it took for you to stick to your guns and do what was best for you.

I applaud you. It isn't ever easy, especially when you live together, or if it's gone on for some time.

*high-five*

[Andrew Bohan]

i'd buy you a drink if you every come around my way

[NemeGuero]

You can buy me a drink! *wink* *wink*

[Andrew Bohan]

who do you think i meant? :love:

[Ghettokracker71]

I think you did the right thing. I definitely applaud you for taking the so-called moral high ground.

[Gnnr]

I'm calling BS on this one. Guys that wear A&F cant fight. lol. :D Good job, though!

[sil80forme]

wtf? whats with all u fuks sayin shit bout A&F and people that wear it? i happen to like the cloths. I and all of my friends will highly disagree with u that guys that wear A&F cant fight. myself and my friends will gladly prove u otherwise, name the time a place. ur are all jealous cause we look so good in cloths u cant afford.....

[240silvia]

There you go Nick, High-Five Bitch! And yes you are right, we do look good in our clothes!!! Are we the only two guys on the board that dress well??? lol.

[Sil-Abc]

dood dont feel bad. think about it now.... u have a big open house.... do i hear a party? now all u need is a three-some. those solve all ur prob[email protected]

[NemeGuero]

wtf? whats with all u fuks sayin shit bout A&F and people that wear it? i happen to like the cloths. I and all of my friends will highly disagree with u that guys that wear A&F cant fight. myself and my friends will gladly prove u otherwise, name the time a place. ur are all jealous cause we look so good in cloths u cant afford.....



Wwwwaaaaaaaahhhhhhh!!!!


That's all I read from that post.

[trsilvias13]

^^ I agree. Most of my money is spent toward the car.

I do have nice clothes though, but that only to go to work in.

[P4rD0nM3]

Congratulations! At first you'll feel bad about what happened...but think about yourself man! Good job...*Clap Clap* You did the right thing.

[santacruisin]

I guess their is some relation between A&F and North Carolina. I only known one guy that rocked AF clothes and he was from Ohio. Must have something to do with lack of cultural development in the middle of the country. Thank god for the coasts! Life is too short to dress brokeback...

[Phlip]

I guess their is some relation between A&F and North Carolina. I only known one guy that rocked AF clothes and he was from Ohio. Must have something to do with lack of cultural development in the middle of the country. Thank god for the coasts! Life is too short to dress brokeback...
HEY, I am from NC and have never set foot in an Abercrombie & Fitch.

.. so i officially call bullshit on your theory

[Andrew Bohan]

wtf? whats with all u fuks sayin shit bout A&F and people that wear it? i happen to like the cloths. I and all of my friends will highly disagree with u that guys that wear A&F cant fight. myself and my friends will gladly prove u otherwise, name the time a place. ur are all jealous cause we look so good in cloths u cant afford.....

There you go Nick, High-Five Bitch! And yes you are right, we do look good in our clothes!!! Are we the only two guys on the board that dress well??? lol.

http://picayune.uclick.com/comics/bo/2006/bo060122.gif

[ALTRNTV]

I'm not about to spend $79.99 on some tore up A&F jeans, when I can buy $25 jeans and tear them up myself, for free.

http://www.abercrombie.com/anf/onlinestore/collection/11551_10_b.jpg

I do buy, however, $150+ Nike Dunks. Don't come in telling me buying these shoes are the same as buying $80 pants. The difference is that these Dunks aren't available at EVERY mall, of EVERY city, of EVERY state in the US of A. Besides, alot of the guys who shop at A&F are girly men. What a bunch of fanboys. :keke:

[ThatGuy]

HEY, I am from NC and have never set foot in an Abercrombie & Fitch.

.. so i officially call bullshit on your theory

Make that 2. I dislike A&F and all their Emo clothes.:jerkit:

[ALTRNTV]

Make that 2. I dislike A&F and all their Emo clothes.:jerkit:

Tell me about it. That goes with American Eagle too, and sometimes Hollister.

BACK ON TOPIC!
Any news?

[NemeGuero]

I got an American Eagle belt.. it has a bottle opener buckle!!

I don't know how it works though.. every time I try to open it, I spill.

It was a present. *shrugs*

[WilloW]

Good job on the ass beating.

[infinitexsound]

work world, marshalls, and target for the bare necessities.. anything else would be uncivlized..........

to add.... to the rant of clothing stores... banananananananana republic...its nice but 40 fucken dollar for a t-shirt... get real!

[mrmephistopheles]

I shop at fucking Ross.
$12 Tommy Hilfiger jeans FTW.

To OP:
outstanding.jpg

[SimpleSexy180]

I'm not about to spend $79.99 on some tore up A&F jeans, when I can buy $25 jeans and tear them up myself, for free.

http://www.abercrombie.com/anf/onlinestore/collection/11551_10_b.jpg

I do buy, however, $150+ Nike Dunks. Don't come in telling me buying these shoes are the same as buying $80 pants. The difference is that these Dunks aren't available at EVERY mall, of EVERY city, of EVERY state in the US of A. Besides, alot of the guys who shop at A&F are girly men. What a bunch of fanboys. :keke:


EWWWW DUNKS :aw:

and congrats on doing the right thing.

[drift freaq]

well, you have balls after all! Congrats on doing the right thing. albeit a little late in the game, but you finally stood up for yourself and stopped her from walking on you. Of course she cried , no more cake and eat it too, for her.

As far as the guy goes he is one fucked up dude. You kick her out , she tells him he comes looking for you? Then he tells her he is going to stop seeing her because you kicked her out? Man, was he taking her for a ride.
She really got what she deserved.
Once again congrats for having self esteem.

[Andrew Bohan]

I guess she told her Abercrombie fag what happened and he came looking for me at the bars.

where does it say she told the fag to go looking for him. sounds like the fag decided to do it all by himself, based on the girl telling him what happened.

[2iv0 sx]

I do buy, however, $150+ Nike Dunks. Don't come in telling me buying these shoes are the same as buying $80 pants. The difference is that these Dunks aren't available at EVERY mall, of EVERY city, of EVERY state in the US of A. Besides, alot of the guys who shop at A&F are girly men. What a bunch of fanboys. :keke:
Foreals most my of shoes cost more than all my clothes combined.

[midnite_180]

Pics Man, Pics!

[RiversideS13]

i think you should not post pictures but good job on kicked his ass and made right decision.